[Chalkdust]

It seems I always come here when I am down. Well actually I come here and read......I need to post more.....I will do that ...I will become more active here....I like it here........

Now to my post: Four years ago today i was assualted by a group of men. I am feeling so low today. Does anniversaries affect anyone else like this? Just wonder. My wife and I are going out to for lunch and to see a movie after while. We both need to just get our minds off this. Yesterday we lost her wallet with $200 in it......so we really need to just go have some fun. I keep having thought and picture run through my mind of what happened the evening I was attacked. I wish this owuld all just go away but its not. Since being attacked we have been stalked also. NOthing has happened in a while but the last thing said to me was that they were going to do this again so you can imagine how we feel. I t hink I am going to just go lay down for a while. read a book...listen to music....just space out for a while then we will go out and have some fun and forget about life for a while! THanks for listening......

Chalkdust was my sigature but "Tobey" is my name.

Tobey,

You are wise to try and take it slow and have some fun.

Anniversaries of trauma are all consuming. Sometimes not just on the day it happened, so be careful. It may hit you again in a few days.

Take care,

Petunia

[Overcastbutclearing]

Thanks for sharing Chalkdust.
I hope you and your wife can enjoy the day and make new memories on this date!
Take care!

yes anneversarys get me too. Something CAN be done who ever is telling you nothing can be done is lying to you. Since they are saying they are going to do it again then their identities are known so all you need to do is go to the police and file a report and obtain a protection order. Once the protection order has been filed you recieve a copy and these people will be served their copy to them by the police and then after that if they come within 500 feet of you they are immediately arrested if you call the police. When they are arrested for violating the protection order there is manditory jail time.

[jmo531]

Tobey,

I am very sory that this day holds such horrible memories for you. I agree with SJ, in that I think that you and your wife should make new, comforting and good memories.

Thinking of you.


Huggles,


Jen

[jennie]

(((((((((((((Chalkdust)))))))))))))))

yes, anniversaries affect me tremendously every year. October 14th is my worst. usually, after feeling down and having a lot of memories about the past event and crying and stuff . . . i eventually bounce back!

i think you are doing good things to take care of you! it's easy to overwhelm ourselves with bad past memories. taking breaks and planning fun things to do are very important in recovery.

[mrb020377]

December 8th of every year affects me..... i know how you guys get scared... me too!!

[Ryan]

Tobey... as with everyone else, anniversaries hit me hard too. I hope that this one was easier than the one before and that next one will be easier than this one. Good for you in taking the afternoon and doing something fun. You deserve it. Let us know how it went, ok?

[Chalkdust]

Thanks everyone for your replys. We did go out to see the movie "Elizabethtown" it was good and enjoyable. I even went out the next day and bought the cd of the music. After the movie we went out to eat. So the day ended up being alright. I have been 'down' on and off but I guess that goes with the territory. Today I am going to therapy. My wife and I take turns tonite is mine. I get to "interview" the T then stay for my appointment.....this should be interesting. 8-)

Tobey

[Chalkdust]

The interview is for a class project for my Intro to Human Service class.