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#1
Mar 12, 2011, 04:38 PM
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its been about a year since I told my brothers.
My mother and father were confronted regarding the issues. My brothers were told and all seemed to be on my side. But today ... over a year later....I am still here. They are still there. What did I expect. what was the use of facing it and telling. Nobody did anything to change it Its in the past approx 30 yrs what would mom do? I always wondered this. I wondered while I was in therapy why my little girl inside did not tell. Why did it happen. Why didnt my mother know, What would she do if I told?? haaahh Well now I know NOTHING Its not like I would want her to leave him...my dad. She abused me also....but in a different way Shutting me UP! ...but I guess maybe that I should expect that I should expect her to get help and him too. But they continue on they still coexist and are still under the same roof they visit together they are one! I am an adult I know it..... but well I guess this would have been the outcome then as well She would not have done anything But she might as well blame me 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 12 13 14 15 16 yrs old till I ran from home. A safe distance but remaining their daughter.
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#2
Mar 13, 2011, 08:09 AM
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Sorry you are going through this...my parents are still together, even after everything was exposed. In my mind, my mother chose my father over her children. A decision I will never be able to comprehend, but must accept. My thoughts are with you.
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 Children's talent to endure stems from their ignorance of alternatives. ~ Maya Angelou Thank you SadNEmpty for my avatar and signature.
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Mar 13, 2011, 08:23 AM
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I'm sorry for your pain sunny. hoping for brighter days for you.
Maybe you need to keep your distance from your family (physically, emotionally, and psychologically) and work on healing YOU. just remember that its not your fault what happened to you. hoping for brighter days for you. |
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Mar 13, 2011, 09:47 AM
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when you were young and didn't tell...i found i felt i had to protect this info from others. i was too embarassed or ppl wouldn't believe me. i'm glad you were courageous and finally told your brothers. unfortunately if a family has a "pink elephant" in the room-abuse for example-the family members don't want to acknowledge it cause they too don't want to admit the disfunction of the family.
i'm sorry this continues to plague you and cause you to question "why". abuse in any form is not acceptable. my advice-how do you stay healthy in an unhealthy environment? answer-distance, is what my T told me. get on with your life and i encourage you to see a T that can help you resolve your questions and feelings. it helped me so much to do that. you are the heathy one, not your family, brothers included.
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Mar 14, 2011, 11:24 AM
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Sunny abuse happens because the family is sick. Some families are so sick and they will never get help or change.
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