[Ardmore]

I really don't have much of a story to tell but I want to get this off my chest.

Growing up wasn't easy, my parents fought all the time, even when I was in the room, my dad drank all the time but he never hit me but he was always out all night at the bar, my mother was cold, she never was with us, she just hanged in her room smoking her weed, when my dad wasn't around, my mother took her anger out on me and my brother, she yelled and call us "retarded", and "Bastards", she'd wake up in the morning and go in our rooms while we were sleeping and destroy our things (I was 4-8 years old when she was doing this), when I was 7, she lied and said a friend of mine was down stairs, as I was walking down stairs, she pushed me and I fell all the way to the concrete floor, she acted like it was a "mistake", but I don't know if I can believe her.
She came home with a guy almost ever time she went out, but I didn't have a problem with I, the men she went out with kept the anger she bottled till we were alone.

My dad left when I was 8, and didn't come back till I was 10.
He was the only parent that showed me what a father is suppose to be and my mother hated my dad for it.

The last guy she went out with is a Drug Abuser, he emotionally abuses her and I felt bad for her till she married him and decided to move with him, that was a year ago, I'm 16 now.
She was trying to make me move with them but I hated being with them, so now I'm living with my dad, but since then, she tries to talk to me but now that I can stand for myself, she tell her to "go to hell" if she tries to talk to me, but my older sister hates and acts like I'm not her brother for hating my mom, I cut ties with her and now my life is going the way I wanted it to, after going through Depression, and suicide attempts.
My dad helped me and now.
It only get better I hope

Sorry for it being so long, but if you did read it, thank you.

Hello, Ardmore. You have had to deal with so much. I wish you well.

[Ardmore]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Hello, Ardmore. You have had to deal with so much. I wish you well.

I got better then most at the age I'm at but thank you, but their are people who have been worse than me.

[alias123]

Hey Ardmore,

I like your Totoro avatar.

I, too, am sorry things were so rough for you. I hope your mom cleans up and can give you the apology you deserve. I am glad you are with your dad. I am sorry you have to cut ties with family to protect yourself. It is wise and very good for you to do, but it is hard nonetheless.

[stephc]

Hey Ardmore.
I'm sorry that your life hasn't been the best. It's good that you are with your dad now, and I don't think it's a good idea to talk to your mum who abuse(d) you and has an emotionally abusive partner. I'm sorry that your sister is angry, but perhaps it's for the best that you cut ties with your family, even though it would be heart-breaking. Perhaps in the future, they'll understand.

[Ardmore]

Originally Posted by alias123

Hey Ardmore,

I like your Totoro avatar.

I, too, am sorry things were so rough for you. I hope your mom cleans up and can give you the apology you deserve. I am glad you are with your dad. I am sorry you have to cut ties with family to protect yourself. It is wise and very good for you to do, but it is hard nonetheless.

Thanks I like your avatar to, and thank you for the support, both of you.
I don't know what to do at this point, my sister flips out when I try to talk to her, and what am I to tell my kids when they ask why they don't have a grandmother, it's hard sometimes.

[Emotional Ninja]

Hi kid. Read my profile. About you're mom. Mine was bi-polar before it was cool. No tx just deal. Good dad just never around (working to support us). Still, that left my little sister and myself totally in the care of my mom. Not cool at all. Never physically abused me or tried to hurt me but everyday was like walking thru a landscape full of landmines. Good times. No friends at school, no understanding or support to be had. After about 40 years I discovered that my mother did not ask to be born bi-polar and did the best she could for us. In her own way she did love us. I'm telling you all this because it sounds to me as though your mom has some real problems that have never been diagnosed or addressed. I believe you are making the right decision to keep your distance for now. Right now the most important thing for you is to get your head straight and be in a good place. You could not help her if you wanted to (sounds like she needs professional help), but she can do more damage to you. Maybe someday she'll get better, maybe she won't. That will be up to her to seek help and tx. Sorrry about your sister. When you're young sometimes it's hard to see everybody's side. As you age you realize everything is a gray area. Hope you and your sis can resolve your differences. But for now,concentrate on yourself and your relationship with your dad. Best wishes and good luck from an old lady.

[Anessen]

Ardmore,

Thank you for sharing your story. It may be hard to seperate yourself from your mom, but I believe you have done the right thing.

I have a similar story, my mom was in and out of hospitals most of my childhood. My step-father was a drunk abuser of both my mother and my brother. I don't recall all the things that happened as a child, but the best thing I ever done was to seperate myself from him.

I wish you the best.

Hello

I'm so sorry that you have been through a bad time. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. I hope you are okay. I've had some family problems too in the past. I sort of know what you have been through.

[Ardmore]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Hello

I'm so sorry that you have been through a bad time. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. I hope you are okay. I've had some family problems too in the past. I sort of know what you have been through.

[shezbut]

((Ardmore))

You sure didn't have a normal or healthy childhood ~ I can relate to that ~ I'm sorry that you and your sister have suffered so much trauma. It's great to hear that you are feeling better, and coming to terms with the past. That's terrific, especially in such a relatively short period of time! (I'm 40 and still battling my childhood memories.)

Hopefully, your relationship with your sister will improve as time passes. We deal with stress differently. Try to remind yourself of that from time to time. Hope that things ease for you in the family. Best wishes!