t naming something

has anyone had a t name something that happened to them (csa) and you dont want to accept it as that. and you keep finding ways to not have to.

*just realized i didnt make this very clear. what my t named to me wasnt that it was csa. but i now see the sentence looks exactly like i said that. im sorry. it was something that happened that she named.

thank you for the replies. it helps knowing others have trouble accepting things their ts tell them.

I don't know what CSA means, but I do know that I had been diagnosed and it took me a very long time to accept that it was true!

I went to therapy for what I thought was one thing....and had my T. call it child abuse. It was very difficult for me to even talk about my family and the things that happened with anyone since that is one of the three biggest underlying rules - don't talk, don't trust and don't feel - in my family. It was very difficult for me to accept the label CA. But once I did, it was very freeing....helped me realize the significance of it and why it had such a big impact.

T named a lot of things for me. I resisted the names at first, at he let me avoid using the names, but he kept using them. In time, I came to use them, too. Naming what has happened to us can really help change our feelings about it.

You don't have to accept or use the names T does, but it's worth exploring how those names make you feel, what they bring up in you, and why you resist them.

I've felt the same way...I try to tell myself it's just words, but sometimes the words he uses make things much more real and THAT makes me want to flee.

CSA - means childhood s***** abuse

yes, i had a counselor tell me that i had a co-dependent relationship with my best friend and i got extremely angry at her, cause I felt like I did nothing wrong, and only tried my best to be a good friend to her, and denied the dependency for years until after the friendship was over, I looked back on it, and saw that the counselor was probably right...

I struggle with this as well. I don't put names to what happened...and use very vague terms to identify it....For me, saying the words directly and out loud make them seem more real and well defined...and I'm not ready for that yet. I don't feel strong enough to handle the shame and guilt and sadness that accompany that admission....

For me it wasn't my T that named it, it was a friend. It took me a long time to accept what my friend told me was true. Up until then, I didn't even think of it as abuse. Just something that happened.