[cpdmommy]

I wanted to say thanks to this site. I am in the middle of divorcing my husband because his untreated mental illness has us fighting constantly and scares the crap out of our 3yr old. Well since he is so good at making me think I am nuts and not him I was seriously doubting if this divorce was the right step until I stumbled on your article "signs of a controlling man" and "8 reasons why women stay with a controlling man" I could not stop crying. It was my life to a tee. I had heard from my thereapist over and over her concerns that he was emotionaly abusive to bot me and our son but emotional abuse is so new to me. I figured there are no bruises so whats the problem. After those articles and some more article reading, I know understand my own psych issues because I can finaly say with complete honesty I am trying to survive domestic violence.

[madisgram]

and you can survive and get on with your life. i know. i did. life is so much better now. i no longer live in fear. hugs.

[Sannah]

Very good!!

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

((((((cpd))))))) Good for you! It's really hard to leave an abusive relationship that is based on emotional abuse because you feel like you're just being a "baby" or like you said, there are no bruises so what's the problem. Then they make it out like everything is because you're so emotional, your too sensative, you need to lighten up, you need a sense of humor, you need to do this or do that and you wont feel so bad... But in reality it is HE who needs to change. He is the one in the wrong, cudos to you for finding this out and DOING something about it Soon enough, if not yet, the new sense of freedom and self respect will kick in and you will be floating on a cloud, even if the rest of the world is falling apart. Taking back your life is so uplifting and incredible! The best of luck to you on your new journey

[missbelle]

I experienced emotional abuse with my husband. At the end I didn't know who I was or what I liked. He took my very self away. I would up in a psych hospital and divorcing him. There was a lot of damage to me and it took years to get better from all the emotional abuse. I thought in the beginning it ws no big deal but after some years of marriage I was destroyed completely. He did not want me even reading a book because it took away from our time. The trouble was he never yelled or hit me, and I began to believe it was "me'. I thought I was the nut and I was crazy. He wanted sex all the time and you could not say no. There was just so much. Even thinking about it causes anxiety now and it was years ago and he has since died!

[cpdmommy]

I know that I was in psych inJune mine had pushed me so far. Thanks to my beagle and to my son we will be "moving on up

[chickenlittle0050]

After 7 years of abuse and upcoming court cases regarding my contributing to a direct no contact order violation x 2 , I am trying to figure out what the hell is wrong with me.. The first help in the "it's not all my fault" is when I researched information regarding situations I have been involved in I was amased in what I found.. I have found information that I have no doubt in my mind he is suffering from Anti Social Personality Disorder. However, the sad part is there is not treatment for it, so my 7 years of effort of rationalizing and trying to get him to understand what he is doing is and will always be unachievable but it really helped me see that I can not obesses or continue to focus on fixing him and when I did that I really realized how my obession on trying to fix someone with ASPD is not obtainable and that I have to let him go and focus on what I should have in the first place, my children.. I feel horrible and I openly admit I am a horrible mother for not focusing on the more important.. I am now dealing with fact that the condition of Anti Social Personality could not just be a learned behavior but could be also genetic in nature and will be damned if I don't try my best to find ways to not control that genetic nature to consume our shared child.. UGH, I hope all the best for you and your family and I admittedly have never gone to a DV group meeting I would love some day to go and maybe feel comfortable enough to share my story in from of women that have shared in similar experiences without judgement or caddy comments.. God Bless