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Mar 07, 2012, 06:46 PM
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But we needed him around. My mom's boyfriend of 14 years finally decided to leave us last week. I had always thought that we would be so much better off with out him and on our own, but things are really difficult now. My mom, brother, and his girlfriend are all unemployed...He was supporting us. The man who used to force me to kiss him, and touch him. Used to scream at me and throw me around. The man who we all depended on so much left us. I don't know what this feeling is, and I can't really explain it. I don't feel happy like I should. I don't feel anything like I'm supposed to. Maybe it's a sense of abandonment, like when my alcoholic-drug addict-abusive-pathetic excuse of a man-father left us. I just can't make sense out of any of this. This whole situation just seems like it's going by in a blur and nothing feels real.
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Mar 07, 2012, 09:53 PM
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Maybe because everyone is upset and worried you aren't feeling relieved? I'm sorry that this happened to you.
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Mar 08, 2012, 11:48 AM
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I have had feelings that I think might be similar to what you describe. This person is a nasty little excuse for a human being, and he/she rejected me????? What does that say about me? I'm not even good enough for a person like that???? Plus, when I've been set up to be financially dependent on someone, once they're gone, even if it's a relief, it's also difficult, inconvenient, scary.....maybe I really did need them?????
Feels awful. But lining up your personal safety is the best possible first step. As long as you can be safe, everything else: money, housing, job, legal problems, they can all be worked out. May be a pain in the rear to deal with, but turns out to be worth it in the long run. |
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Mar 08, 2012, 08:00 PM
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Undertaker, I am so glad you are safe from that idiot. I do believe women should always be prepared in a relationship financially. Becoming dependent on anyone else is a huge mistake and a place where advantages can be taken by the bread winner if they are of that ilk. I'm not a man-hater and was lucky enough to have married a good guy. His money was my money and vice-versa. Hopefully your mom can work out something out to provide for your family.
You've been exposed to two "real dirt bags" it appears; and hopefully in your future you will do much better than this with your life. It's tough right now, but I do so hope your mom uses wisdom to bring household finances into the home for her family. Hugs, bj
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