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Old Mar 13, 2012, 03:12 PM
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So this isn't just today and it doesn't particularly bother me, but I thought her choice of words was interestingly blunt. My T regular refers to orgasming, or masturbating until completion, as "getting off". Anyone else have a similar experience where the words T used were a little unexpected?
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Old Mar 13, 2012, 05:11 PM
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A psychiatrist on the Women's Unit used to tell us survivors of childhood sexual abuse that we were Mentally Masturbating all the time ... I found it quite offensive ... And at the time, it felt akin to being sexually assaulted by a person of authority all over again ...

On the other hand, I've had many conversations about sex with other therapists that didn't feel as if I was being retraumatized ... Therefore, I guess it all depends on who's discussing it, how it's being discussed, and in what context ...

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Thanks for this!
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Old Mar 13, 2012, 05:35 PM
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I think I'm more comfortable when he uses formal terminology for sexual words, but that may be because I can detach more easily from the technical terms than I can from slang. I kind of go into scientist mode, since that's my background.

I'm not comfortable saying any sexual terms to him. I do it because I need to, but I never feel comfortable doing it.
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Old Mar 14, 2012, 12:45 PM
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i'd much rather hear the correct medical or scientific term for anything sexual. partly because it helps me detach from it, but also because i find that more appropriate, professional wording. a t is a medical professional, and i would expect them to use terminology that goes along with that.
i think if you object to a particular word or phrase that t uses, that you should tell her it bothers you. thanks for sharing this.
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Old Mar 15, 2012, 03:45 PM
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A psychiatrist on the Women's Unit used to tell us survivors of childhood sexual abuse that we were Mentally Masturbating all the time ... I found it quite offensive ... And at the time, it felt akin to being sexually assaulted by a person of authority all over again ...

On the other hand, I've had many conversations about sex with other therapists that didn't feel as if I was being retraumatized ... Therefore, I guess it all depends on who's discussing it, how it's being discussed, and in what context ...

Sincerely,
BrokenCloud
I think I would be offended too. Maybe because I don't understand her concept. Maybe I am just nieve or to old.
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