For those that don't know my mum died almost 2 weeks ago I didn't hardly talk to her in 6 months due to a case against dad that is expected to be brought before the CPS next week, I feel ever so guilty in not talking to mum maybe I am to blame for her death? She died so suddenly, I am so heartbroken I can't get rid of the guilt even though people tell me I shouldn't feel guilty I can't help it.

Mum believed in everything dad told her, She was a very nice lady I loved her so much, My dad is now facing a court case without mum, I feel so bad that mum died, I feel sad and like life can't go on.

[Sannah]

TB, I'm so sorry about your loss.

You are not responsible for your mom's passing. In reality, you're not that powerful.

Now your dad, his behavior probably had a huge influence on her.

She is an adult and has always been responsible for her actions in what she chose to do or not do.

Your dad needs to face consequences.

[TerryL]

Tink--the reason you didn't talk to your mom much in those months was, as you said, because of the case against your dad. I'm sure your mom understood why you needed to stay away. She knew you loved her anyways. At the root of it all is the abuse you suffered and its ripple effects. You did nothing wrong. You were wronged. Of course I know it is easier said than done to let go of the guilt... I hope you will get there one day...wishing you all the best

[critterlady]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Even without everything else you have going on, it's normal to feel some guilt after a loved one's passing. But the reality is that you were not responsible for either your mum's death or for the actions of your father. Please be gentle with yourself.