... That they will continue the cycle?

I can't help but wonder sometimes.

[shlump]

yes..........

Thank you for at least responding. Seems like either we're just different OR we're the only ones willing to accept our downfalls.

[Nemo39122]

Originally Posted by Shayatanica

... That they will continue the cycle?

I can't help but wonder sometimes.

Yes, I worry about that a lot. It's one of the reasons I've made the choice to never have children.

I'm an instructor at a martial arts school and sometimes the kids frustrate me. I know this sounds bad but when it's already been a bad day I can't handle it and I sometimes want to beat them. It makes me feel sick to my stomach...I don't want to be him. So far I've had enough control to not do anything. Hopefully I always will...

[Onward2wards]

((( Shay, Slump, Nemo ))) I can relate, in that I was bullied, and sometimes worry about violating other people's boundaries because of it. Sometimes I worry too much about it. It is possible to be too hard on oneself.

It's good that you are concerned about repeating the cycle. This shows that you don't want to emulate your abusers. Own that! You're all resisting the negative effects of things that were done to you, and are aware of it. Surely there are ways to handle it effectively?

You are better than your abusers. They had control over you in the past, but this does not have to be your perpetual future. Please don't ever forget that. Also, please remember that having a stressful time and feeling angry happens to everyone - it does not mean you are going to become abusive.

I wish you all luck in forging your own paths.

[northgirl]

I do worry about it, and fight like nothing else to not let it hold me back. I'm at a point in my life where I really have to make a conscious effort to not let what happened ruin the opportunities I will have to restore some sense of trust and love in my life.

Thank you all.

[yellowted]

have resorted to not having kids, mainly i believe there are too many unwanted ones i could adopt so why go through the gross sex and pain involved in having my own , partly i would not wish any kids of mine to live in this screwed up society

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I am not sure when it's going to go away, the effect, and the pattern. It's a lot of work dealing with it. But I hear it can be dealt with.

Carol

Yellow: Yeeeeeah, I have no idea what psychotic break would ensue if I got pregnant! So you're not alone hahaha. And yeah, this world is pretty screwed up but I think it does no good to focus on their flaws.

Broken: Thanks for that. I know it CAN be dealt with, but ****... It's probably going to be well into menopause that I even want to. But hey; I guess that's my choice to make.

[Silent_Tears_17]

Thats why if i ever decide to have children I will adopt... that way I cant make them any worse. I can only make them better... but as much as i want kids i fear i will never be emotionally stable enough to care for them decently.