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Dec 31, 2012, 10:12 PM
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I don't like this feeling and I can't shake it. I feel like I am owed something by my abuser. He actually did say he was sorry once when I was young but that's not what I mean. I know he can't make it all better but it seems like he should be able to help or be made to help me.
It feels embarrassing to have this feeling and I don't want to say anything in therapy but by not saying anything it seems it just keeps hanging on and getting bigger. Some people think I should take him to court but that has a whole host of other issues around it. I want a magic wand for the New Year to wipe this feeling he owes me away. |
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Dec 31, 2012, 10:15 PM
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Im so sorry. I hope you find something to fill this void.
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Dec 31, 2012, 10:37 PM
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Sounds like anger. Why can't you say anything in therapy? It's like Vegas. It's a fantasy. You don't necessarily have to act on it.
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Dec 31, 2012, 11:47 PM
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Jan 01, 2013, 01:12 AM
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I am very very slow getting in touch with my anger. I am very crabby but at the wrong people or for the wrong reasons. An overreaction usually. Like a dog who will just snap at you. Well so was my mother. So that was my training. But it's more than that. We talk about attachment - this is the lack of attachment that we were entitled to.
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Jan 01, 2013, 07:26 PM
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You want justice? He harmed you. Maybe you want restorative or corrective justice?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 01, 2013, 09:40 PM
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Jan 01, 2013, 11:31 PM
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I feel the same way Little me..... you want something.. but dont know what you want... maybe it is a WHY?? Everything is very confusing. YOu are not alone....
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Jan 02, 2013, 09:11 AM
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Jan 02, 2013, 08:43 PM
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Ugh. |
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Jan 03, 2013, 10:35 AM
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Too bad you didn't mention it earlier in the session so you could have dealt with it more. Good work bringing it up, though.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 03, 2013, 09:55 PM
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I get so I can't speak..... about difficult things. She suggested we work on the difficult stuff early on....
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Jan 03, 2013, 11:33 PM
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A lot of times I bring up something hard at the end of a session--it takes me that long to find the guts! And then at my next session, it is easier to dive into it earlier. I start the next session with, "I want to talk about what I said at the end last week."
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Jan 03, 2013, 11:44 PM
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I do that too... except the T has to bring it up next session
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Jan 04, 2013, 11:14 AM
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It is common. I think they term it "doorknob revelations". The most important thing, though, is that it was said.
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