[Angel640]

I don't want to go into too much detail on a public forum, but I believe that my dad was involved in my mom's death and is now planning to kill me. He profited greatly off of my mother's death and is now able to live his life the way he wants. He was always emotionally/physically abusive to my mother and me, does not like women, tortures pets, is a racist and a rageaholic. Plus, he has enough knowledge of medicine to be able to pull off a murder without questions.

All of a sudden he's been obsessed with coming to see me. After living away from home for years (and rarely seeing him) it's suddenly in every conversation. He's not ill, I'm not rich, and nothing has changed. He been crying crocodile tears and trying to pressure me into it but cracks are showing through his facade. I genuinely think that I'm in danger but can't go to the police without any hard evidence. Which I doubt I would get without wiretapping his house.

What can I do?!

[Silent_Tears_17]

You need to go to the police. Even without hard evidence, if you believe you are in danger and have had past issues of abuse you CAN get a restraining order. You can get help. If you believe your life is in danger you need to get help right away. Where do you live?

[Angel640]

Thank you, Silent Tears. I live in New York state; he lives in a different state within driving distance. The issue is that my mom never reported the abuse. I never filed a police report, but therapists would at least have it documented. I'm just worried that the police will brush it off. Anytime I've had to go to them about anything, they've been complacent until the situation became more extreme. But my dad is obviously determined to make something happen soon, so I really need to take action now. It's crazy because people who don't know him well think that he's outgoing, happy-go-lucky, and a good father. They'll believe anything he tells them. People that know him better were able to tell that he was physically abusive towards me and have brought it up years later. No one ever tries to step in with him. I think that he believes he can get away with anything.

[Silent_Tears_17]

Originally Posted by Angel640

Thank you, Silent Tears. I live in New York state; he lives in a different state within driving distance. The issue is that my mom never reported the abuse. I never filed a police report, but therapists would at least have it documented. I'm just worried that the police will brush it off. Anytime I've had to go to them about anything, they've been complacent until the situation became more extreme. But my dad is obviously determined to make something happen soon, so I really need to take action now. It's crazy because people who don't know him well think that he's outgoing, happy-go-lucky, and a good father. They'll believe anything he tells them. People that know him better were able to tell that he was physically abusive towards me and have brought it up years later. No one ever tries to step in with him. I think that he believes he can get away with anything.

Ok. Below is the streamlined version of requirement for a temp restraining order in NY

(a) Generally. If, on a motion
for a preliminary injunction, the plaintiff shall show that immediate
and irreparable injury, loss or damages will result unless the defendant is restrained before a hearing can be had, a temporary restraining order may be granted without notice. Upon granting a temporary restraining order, the court shall set the hearing for the preliminary injunction at the earliest possible time.
http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/nycode/CVP/63/6313

This site has a lot of good questions and answers... below are some
http://www.courts.state.ny.us/courth...cviolence.html

Q. Who can I get an order of protection against in Family Court?

A. You can get an order of protection against any of the following individuals in Family Court:

• A current or former spouse
• Someone you have a child in common with
• Another family member that you are related to by blood or marriage

Q. What kinds of things can be put in my order of protection?

A. Among other things, the judge can order the respondent or defendant:
• not to assault, menace, or harass you or commit crimes of reckless endangerment or disorderly conduct towards you.
• to be removed by the police from where you are living.
• to stay away from you, your residence, your job, and other places you may want.
• not to telephone or e-mail you or write you letters.

The judge can also protect your children in the order of protection. For example, you may ask that any visitation with the children be supervised. In Family Court, the judge can order the respondent to pay temporary support and to give you legal custody of any children you may have with the respondent.

I really hope this helps. Keep us posted....

[Sannah]

It wouldn't hurt to go talk to the police would it?

[geez]

I second what everyone else has posted. A restraining order and talking to the police before it's too late. I know of someone who's mother was murdered by the father. The person's father hired two hit men to kill the mother. He thought he was going to be found innocent. Years later he's now in jail with the two hit men.

Protect yourself. You have nothing to lose by going to the authorities. If the police don't listen keep telling your fears to others.

Here are the numbers for the FBI in NY - don't stop talking about it until you find someone who is willing to listen. If you need a tap then do it. If you think your father really wants to kill you then you need to do everything in your power to protect yourself.... and perhaps you can get some justice for your mom if your suspicions are correct.

FBI Albany
200 McCarty Avenue
Albany, NY 12209
albany.fbi.gov
(518) 465-7551

FBI Buffalo
One FBI Plaza
Buffalo, NY 14202-2698
buffalo.fbi.gov
(716) 856-7800

FBI New York
26 Federal Plaza, 23rd. Floor
New York, NY 10278-0004
newyork.fbi.gov
(212) 384-1000

Keep us posted!

I am totally in line with the other members. You are so brave to reach out and post. Please do not wait one more moment to seek a protective order and to see the support of law enforcement.

Also, is it possible to change your residence along with your phone number(s) and any email addresses and cancel your social networking sites, if any.

Trust yourself and seek help - before it is too late.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

[kitty004567]

Call the police, see what you can do. Document, document, document. I sent a guy to jail for threatening to burn my house down without ever setting foot in a courtroom (I video-recorded the call with my phone, called the police, emailed the file to the detective). In the state of Texas it is legal to record phone calls and other (face to face) conversations as long as one of the parties involved in the conversation knows it's being recorded. I've seen a $20 personal tape recorder and mic allow a father to take custody of a child from an abusive mother.

Also relatively inexpensive are cameras that you might use outside of your front door if your father is showing up in person. It can help you document how often he comes by. Many of them will even send you an email if there's motion and you can access the video feed via the internet or your smart phone.

All of this adds up to sometimes it's frustrating but if the police can't or won't do anything, you can help yourself. Pretty much any of this only does good if you then call the police. Stay safe!