[xrainstormx]

So, I was doing a lot better until today. The guy who did things to me is a person my friend still talks to every now and then. I told her what happened and she still continues to talk to him. How could she? I was with her when she called him today and that just brought back so many memories. I went home early and now I am in a horrible mood. I feel like I did when it happened. I hate flashbacks!!

awwww im so sorry xrainstrormx! be gentle with yourself!

[xrainstormx]

thank you.

yea. I know how you feel. I felt this way when my mom said she didnt beileve me because how could she since she was married to the man for 17 years.

*sigh*

It is hard, but remember no matter what you did the right thing for yourself and if she makes choices that openly hurt you, then I would evaluate the friendship. It is a sticky situation though.

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

I believe that people often forget how things / actions really hurt others unless they are going through it at the moment.... sad, but true.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[mtd]

xrainstormx -- I don't know why your friend would do this, but if I was in your place I would feel like my bad experience was being invalidated or minimized. In my experience, people just don't always get it. I only like the people now who try to understand.

I hope you feel better. I hate flashbacks too. I want them to go away, but they have other ideas apparently.

be well,

mtd

[xrainstormx]

I am always loosing friends for now reason. It hurts.

[xrainstormx]

I have only met one person who tries to understand.

[Rhapsody]

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Then value that one person for what they are worth..... most people only have 2-4 best friends with a life time (so you are blessed).

LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))

[deedee1122]

Dear X-rainstore, do I have your user name right? I am new to this suprt. grp. and I noticed you are having a bad time with the abuser. I am sorry for you and the exposure you are still faced with. your friend does not know the pain and feelings 1st. hand like you do. I am just begining to work with my own exposure of sexual abuse from my purpetrater, !the spelling might be off, just like he was and still is.... My goal is to deal with this "victim" feeling for ever, but it will take much time and work, since I have been living in the pain of for ever and pretending that everything in my life is OK...but it's not. Take gental care of yourself and keep some distance from that person who violated your life.

[hillbunnyb]

xrainstormx, what a bummer. insensitive to say the least. and i don't know if it's just me, but, sounds sorta like some kind of passive aggressive game.... like your friend was mind f'ing you for some reason. i'd steer clear. talk to folks here who care about your feelings until you can find suportive 3D friends....

[xrainstormx]

I love that person with all of my heart.

[xrainstormx]

I am glad someone esle thinks that. I always though that but I didn't kbow if I should believe it. That is a horrible thing to do though.

[mtd]

Xrainstormx, Hang in there. In my experience, knowing and accepting the truth in my life is the first step to serenity. I think I have friends who are whole friends, those willing to be sensitive to my needs and what I am going through. That's part of my truth. Then there are those who clearly don't want to get it. I'm done trying to teach them and I gradually push them farther away from me. That's the choice I've made to deal with those not sensitive to my needs.

I know you are hurting. Please know that you are not alone in this healing process.

Be well,

mtd

[xrainstormx]

Thank you. Sometimes I get so caught up in my feelings. I forget I need to heal.