Does this count as rape? (Possibly triggering/graphic)

Maybe he blamed you because he blames himself for what happened to him.

I think you're probably right on this one. He also thinks of it as his duty to protect me and he feels like if anything bad happens to me (or happened even before we met) that he is somehow responsible. I understand being protective but this goes a bit beyond that.

It sounds like he could use some therapy. It sounds like he is carrying a lot of pain with him all the time and is lashing out. I can only say you have to do what is best for you and take care of yourself. Don't sacrifice your mental health and progress of healing because he doesn't want to face what happened to him. You can be there, but don't disregaurd your feelings.