[leeross]

my mother know i've been abused, but i'm not sure if she realy believes me. I've been acused of making the story by relatives... i guess they just prefer to think it that way for it's much easier for them. Is it realy not talking about it the right way to forget about it? I don't want sympathies, but that does made me feel so alone.

[Travelinglady]

leeross, you are not alone. We are here to listen. In fact, many people here have been abused in some form or fashion. Of course, we have this forum on "survivors of abuse." And we also have a social group, if my memory serves me right.

It's particularly difficult when nobody wants to believe us. They are burying their heads in the sand--in denial. That makes it even harder for the person to feel safe and valued. But, alas, I'm afraid it's fairly common. It rocks the boat for the family and sometimes they just can't deal with it.

I agree with PAYNE, My family are the same they are way in denial and it is mostly the older generation that think I am lying I know it is hurtful, It is easier for them to sweep it under the carpet

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Talk to ppl who will listen *and* believe you.

They are out there and we are here, too.

Not talking about it will make it worse. But make sure you are talking to someone who will not re-victimize you or hurt you more.

Carol

[leeross]

How can I know if i'm healed? do people that been abused really need treatment?

[Sannah]

Treatment is really helpful. Being abused affects your self worth, ability to have healthy boundaries, ability to meet your needs, your empowerment, your ability to express your feelings. It causes anxiety and depression.

[kittycat97]

What if your doctors, psychologists, counsellors do not really seem to care , listen and believe you?