[chanz89]

Tomorrow I am taking a big step and going to counselling for the first time. I am really nervous. I have been to family counselling with my father before, and he manipulated them into believing his story, and he played the victim. I went to one counsellor and she seemed to think I only need the one session to deal with what was overwhelming me. I know I need somebody to talk to, as I am getting to feel really overwhelmed while planning my wedding, and dealing with all these extra complications. But I am nervous ... I can't even say why I am so nervous and anxious but I am.

[pbutton]

This is one of the best decisions you could make for yourself. Congrats on taking such a big step. It's normal to be nervous when doing something new. I always tell myself that one of the coolest things about therapy is that it's totally acceptable (and encouraged!) to talk about how nervous I am.

[kaliope]

good job! glad to see you are taking steps to care for yourself. make sure to let the counselor know the struggles you have had with past counseling experiences so he/she does not make the same mistakes with you and can make you more comfortable with the experience this time. take care

[Bill3]

Good work! Let us know how it goes (if okay).

[tinyrabbit]

Good luck. It's normal not to know what's at the root of bothering you, it happens that way a lot I think. Did with me anyway.

[Leed]

I'm so glad you're going!! You will be so glad you did this -- it's the best GIFT you could ever give yourself.

It's normal to be nervous, but once you're there the therapist will calm your fears. Take care and let us know how it goes. Hugs, Lee

[spondiferous]

I think it's expected to be nervous before going to see a new counselor. I don't know if this fits for you, but you may also be nervous because you were invalidated by the last two. I hope it goes well and you get the support you need. Everyone deserves that.

[yellowted]

thoughts are with you for today, good luckx

[picklewheeze]

Well done I hope it goes well for you!

I often think that talking about things is a lot like doing a bungee jump. The longer you stand at the top deliberating the harder it gets to jump. The fall will be the same no matter how long you stay there and the freedom you'll feel at the bottom will still be there. You've just got to be prepared to make the leap. The thing is for me, the price I pray for that freedom is vulnerability. But the more times I make the leap and am caught at the bottom, the bigger the bungee jump I can make. It's a hard journey and I'm sorry you have to take it but you'll be so much better of in the end.

I wish you all the best in your journey. I'm sorry you've had negative experiences of counselling before, I had the same problem as a minor but it has been far more beneficial now its all on my own terms. Good luck