[sprik]

my dad always told I wasnt good enough, plain and simple dad was a abusive alchoilic he would tell me all the time, i wasnt his kid, i wasnt good enough, i didnt clean, i didnt get good enough grades, he didnt love me because of this. This has effected everyone in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!My thinking, my confidence, my ability to move forward on anything, my ability to love someone and a reason to stay in a loveless marriage, a reason to be afraid to date a good guy,my bipolar thinking constantly. self esteem, self worth. The way I allow my ex to throw me in a great depression for years. i cant think about it, i have to move forward, I dont think im so bad, I have great awesome children i raise for 13 yrs by myself and they r good decent respectable people. So I cant be that horrbile if i raised them

[Travelinglady]

I'm sure you're a good and competent person. We all tend to internalize our parents' thoughts and feelings, but remember that your dad is only one person, and he was not normal. I agree that raising good kids shows you have your act together.

Have you seen a therapist to help you with these feelings of not being worthy?

[nicoleflynn]

When we are born we are perfect and innocent. Along the way a person(s) tell us a lie that we aren't good enough, etc.....actually abusers are projecting what they feel about THEMSELVES onto you. As a child you cannot know that, but as an adult you can work on that, recognizing there was never ANYthing wrong with you. It is difficult to erase those old tapes (lies that were told to us), but with work (therapy) you can begin to realize the truth.

[winkynjr]

((((sprik)))) I am so sorry you are going through this and I understand totally!! Like you have told me over and over again, we need to think about our kids to keep us going in the right direction!!!! its not always easy, but I guess it beats the alternative!!!