I think much abuse now towards children in the home is really due to the highly sexualized nature of some homes now. Don't get me wrong, I'm no some crazy conservative whack but I really think sex and the younger generation needs some sort of governance. I mean where do you draw the line? Much sexual abuse now towards minors is by people who are still young themselves, say a child of 10 getting abused by a male of 16 for example, and much of this is due to that 16 year viewing porn since hell it could be 10 years of age these days. Just to put that into perspective, imagine how a young boy of 10 who watches porn up until the age of 16 views women around him?
Porn is fine as long as you respect women and don't let it take over your life. It can quickly become an obsession and many things done to women in sexual relationships currently, is due to what men see in porn. Most men never would have asked their partner for things such as a deepthroat or a facial if they had not seen it in porn. Porn made men think that all women liked these acts or that they gone on in every relationship so the man felt he had to make his partner do these things, they think it is the norm but it is not, but it is now I guess because more and more men and teenage boys expect this from their girlfriends/wives.
Teenage years were a confusing enough time before online porn was around, now it is the talk of the playground and lunchtime. Teens sharing it on their phones, talk of the latest sexual craze or fetish. There's so much incest porn on porn sites now, which some teens almost see it as an acceptable thing to do.
That really is a worry in my eyes. Two siblings may think sex between them is fun or exciting but wait until those two siblings grow into adults.. Then what? Such behaviour could cause deep trauma and disgust at oneself in adulthood. Asking how it happened? Why it happened? Knowing now that it was wrong and should never have occurred.
And how will teenage incest impact on how they raise their own children? The boy who abused his sister as a teen may think that he can also abuse his daughter when she is a teen, and the cycle never f***king stops.
My point really is that abuse is not going away but seems to be getting worse, and as a society we need to face it and try to educate more. Kids need to know what is right and wrong, parents have the greatest responsibility of all. Most abuse happens at home, make sure it does not happen in yours.

[allme]

Hi

I totally disagree. I used to sneak in the middle of the night and watch horror films but it didn't turn me into a killer.

Porn, used in the right context, can be perfectly healthy. Of course it's not intended for youngens but personally, I don't believe there is anything wrong with porn. I actually work with porn stars so I guess my opinion is a little biased.

I saw porn when I was around 16 and I can tell you, it didn't make me want to go and abuse ANYBODY let alone a fricking child. Child abusers are child abusers and IMO would have abused children whether they watched porn or not.

Thanks for your thoughts though

I think the type of sexual abuse you mention has been happening pretty much since man existed. It's just it's brought more up now then it was in the past. I mean 50-60 years ago a man could probably sexually abuse his daughter and it would just be swept under the carpet. She possibly be seen as a liar or crazy.

Rape, sexual assaults, abuse of children, murder, have always happened and will continue to happen. Porn could possibly influence some people, but I don't think you can simply throw this at porn.

There's a huge difference between some blond bimbo with fake breasts and a 10 year old girl for example.

I don't agree porn is healthy. There's been studies suggesting porn has negative effects on the brain in regards to dopamine. Porn can actually make real sex seem less interesting. There's suggestions that porn may stop those acting out sexual violence because they have an outlet with porn. However, the negative to that is that it can ruin the sex lives of couples.

[Poppy Princess]

Normal porn, no. There is porn out there of a far darker nature though.

[tacoqueen1993]

Originally Posted by allme

Hi

I totally disagree. I used to sneak in the middle of the night and watch horror films but it didn't turn me into a killer.

Porn, used in the right context, can be perfectly healthy. Of course it's not intended for youngens but personally, I don't believe there is anything wrong with porn. I actually work with porn stars so I guess my opinion is a little biased.

I saw porn when I was around 16 and I can tell you, it didn't make me want to go and abuse ANYBODY let alone a fricking child. Child abusers are child abusers and IMO would have abused children whether they watched porn or not.

Thanks for your thoughts though

I disagree with that. In porn they over sexualize women making them out to be sex slaves or underage. They usually have the girl on her hands and knees gagging over his penis, mascara running, pounding her, spitting on her, insulting her, grabbing her hair when she performs oral sex. I think more hardcore porn, and BDSM porn is to blame. The titles are always " Young teen gets pounded by ..."or "S-L-U-T TAKES A BIG C***" some people end up turning their sexual fantasies into reality.Think about pedophiles now a days they are usually older men, they get bored of just plain old boring sex, and turn on to children. I do think a man either likes small childern or doesn't. but the porn industry has a alot to do with it. that's my belief I guess. I know I have gotten bored of certain porn before, and turned to more extreme side of the porn industry, but I think there a lot more to just porn to blame for the cause. Look at the fashion industry for children now a days, and the advertisements they are much more sexualized. Little girls walking around in booty shorts, and halter tops.

I never said everyone who watches porn was or is an abuser. But thanks for anyone who noticed that I did not say that.

Originally Posted by DylanP

I never said everyone who watches porn was or is an abuser. But thanks for anyone who noticed that I did not say that.

Nobody said you did.

[blueredgrey]

I personally feel Porn has many, many negatives and very few positives (helps the lonely get quick gratification). As a survivor or sex abuse....sometimes reading about such twisted stories helps me get some control over it....same reason why sometimes rape victims want to view scenes of rape for gratification....it's i think mind's way of gaining control over incidents in which you feel helpless.

But I really don't think porn contributes to sexual abuse. Everyone is a deviant, but to different degrees. Some keep it restricted in their minds and would NEVER act on it, some may act if EVERY situation is right for it and some actively create scenarios so that they can act on it (like psychopaths).

Every abuser is a narcissist and narcissism stems from childhood or relations with parents, etc. Every abuser is either born that way (twisted in the brain....bad nature) or is made that way (through poor upbringing...bad nurture).

Ultimately, I don't think there's one single reason for it....for abuse or to that matter for every crime.

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

I so wish it could be so simple as to blame it on porn, but watching sexual movies from a young age doesn't make people want younger kids or think sexually about everyone, each person has a "taste" and porn doesn't curb that taste into something horrific, it's my belief that it has to do with the abusers past, confusion over a previous trauma that happened to them never fully healing and it carried on to them and they develop the "taste", as far as overall dominance in adults abusing adults, that's a whole different story and the fact that they have these "rape fantasy" porns doesn't help, but hopefully some of the men craving that dominance will be able to use the pornography as an outlet instead of hurting women until they can get help

[allme]

Originally Posted by tacoqueen1993

I disagree with that. In porn they over sexualize women making them out to be sex slaves or underage. They usually have the girl on her hands and knees gagging over his penis, mascara running, pounding her, spitting on her, insulting her, grabbing her hair when she performs oral sex. I think more hardcore porn, and BDSM porn is to blame. The titles are always " Young teen gets pounded by ..."or "S-L-U-T TAKES A BIG C***" some people end up turning their sexual fantasies into reality.Think about pedophiles now a days they are usually older men, they get bored of just plain old boring sex, and turn on to children. I do think a man either likes small childern or doesn't. but the porn industry has a alot to do with it. that's my belief I guess. I know I have gotten bored of certain porn before, and turned to more extreme side of the porn industry, but I think there a lot more to just porn to blame for the cause. Look at the fashion industry for children now a days, and the advertisements they are much more sexualized. Little girls walking around in booty shorts, and halter tops.

In everything there is an extreme and you are talking about some hard core stuff. I see nothing wrong in the softer stuff. It is ridiculous to blame porn for child abuse. A person either is or isn't....porn doesn't 'create' abusers. Maybe some abusers watch it but it doesn't mean porn created them. If only the answer was as simple as that......

[healed84]

I was rapes at the age of 10 by two 16 year old boys.. Sure, they may have been able to get a hold of their dad's playboy or whatever.. But- this was long before the day of Internet porn being so readily available like they are these days. I doubt the boys who raped me where obsessed with porn. I think there way a myriad of reason as why they did what they did.. Most of them likely pointed to having some kind of mental illness themselves, or been abused themselves in some manner.

I do believe that our the porn industry is doing g harm to people these days, but I highly doubt it is turning into people into child abusers.

[wisedude]

I don't think porn is central to child or sexual abuse, except perhaps very extreme, illegal porn.

[AFDakota77]

Porn has no positives impacts for women. It victimizes and brainwashes all who are exposed to it that women are sex objects and toys, there is no feeling, caring, fragile human inside the sex object.

How is any of this a good thing ?

Porn will continue to tear down all the small steps women struggle to attain in trying to rid ourselves from sexism. Until we are just seen as a person this roll not happen. We will remain toys that are discarded after our sexual purpose is done, not feeling human beings.

It is s most destructive Gorman of brainwashing in our culture.