A part understood!!

ha - you caught me doing the "try" thing. you are right, if I don't take care of me then I won't be able to take care of the kids.

That is so sad that your children have to miss out on grandma attention. That must really break your heart. Kids aren't stupid - I'm sure they notice that they are treated differently. I hope you are able to explain in a way that doesn't make grandma look like the ditz she is but at the same time will make sure that they know that it is not about them - it is her. They are wonderful and precious - and it is her who is missing out on getting to know them.

Lucky for me the "prized" daughter isn't married and doesn't have children. I think that she would like to be married but is so critical of people - men included - that I don't think it will ever happen. I feel sorry for her. But, like you - the "prized" status has moved from childhood to adulthood. Although not as intense - it is there none the less.

When I was in college I was not permitted to bring my dirty laundry home and I had to hitch a ride or take the greyhound whenever I wanted to get home. When the prized daughter went to college - she was give a car because she was living off campus (her choice, I wasn't given a choice) and needed to have dependable transportation. Go figure.

The list goes on. I try not to think too much on it because it is sad. I am glad to learn why I do certain behaviors .. and then change them so that I am happier or more accepting of me.

Hang in there - it takes a real "prize" to put up with this silly nonsense !!!

Peanuts

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