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Originally Posted by Seiya
This is true of my mother. She has trouble understanding that the way she treats her children affects them. She has read parenting books, and she is a teacher at elementary school, but she doesn't know how to treat her own daughter (me). Many times I have left the room and she would complain to my father about something I just said or did.
My father would explain to her "she acts that way because you taught her that. You are always telling her this and that. She learned that from you."
"She did??"
"Yes...."
"Oh!!!"
Cause and effect does not compute in her mind. I'm wondering if she thinks so little of herself that she thinks her actions don't matter to anyone. That's the only explanation I can think of. |
I wish my dad would say that to my mom like your dad has but the only explanation I can think of is he doesn't want to deal with the emotional abuse as well. however, there have been times where my dad can hear me standing up for myself to my mom, where he no longer will intervene so I take that as he is silently agreeing that my mom has issues, if that makes sense? Also, when my mom would emotionally abuse me and I stand up to her immediately and speak to her calmly when she is going ape s**t on me, when I basically have made my point& she can't handle me actually standing up to her, I'll ask "are you going to go tell dad now?" She never will answer but I know she doesn't tell him later bc if she did then it'll be the 2 against 1 situation with my mom and dad.
Dec 08, 2013, 04:39 PM
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