[susancook911]

I was abused phsyically by my stepdad when i was 9 with belts his hands a stick and my mother knew but just sat there and let it happen. They never let me go anywhere she bought me two pairs of pants and two shirts for the whole school year. I was always forced to clean. I was taken out of school and "home schooled". I feel like scoially and education wise im way behind. Lately ive been remembering stuff that happened and its over whelming. i want to see them both punished. i dont understand why they did it. it was 14 years ago can they be punished?

[doctorwho737]

I don't know about being punished but being an adult survivor of abuse I can tell you it was something horrible that happened to them or that was in them that made them do this.

I can relate to the overwhelming part as I am finally trying to face this stuff myself after burying it and keeping silent for far too long...for first of all give yourself a pat on the back for being strong enough to face it and to seek advice and help.

Are you getting professional help for this? I know at times it can be hard money wise and sometimes seems like a bunch of hoohey to some but honestly I have been since August of last year and it has helped a lot, although I am far from 'healed' and probably some part of this abuse will always be with me.

When my mom got sick around ten or so I got about the same amount of clothes each year, so I deffo hear you there...please seek help and try and find the solution.

I got over a major addiction in a forum like this so I would also suggest you stick around and see what happens...

[SkyWhite]

Originally Posted by susancook911

Lately ive been remembering stuff that happened and its over whelming. i want to see them both punished. i dont understand why they did it. it was 14 years ago can they be punished?

I've given up trying to figure out why my abusive parents were the way they were. It doesn't really matter anyway. It's not likely your parents can be punished. You would have to have proof and after so many years probably nothing would be done.

But even if they were punished the damage has already been done to you and you have to try to heal now. Punishing them won't take away the emotional scars.

Keep posting here to get things off your chest and if you're not seeing a T, try to get one to help to maneuver your way through the memories.