Does Having Dreams You Are Being Molested/Raped mean it Happened in real life?

I had a horrible dream last night, I woke up feeling sick.
I had a dream that my step father was pressuring me to have sex with me. I was pretending to be asleep, and kept trying to move away from him. It was a disturbing dream. and I can't help but worry that maybe it's a blackflash that was kept hidden in my subconcious mind for all these years.
I have a horrible memory, I was sexually molested by a family member when I was younger, and I can hardly remember what happened, and how many times it happened. I know who it was, and remember one incident.
but I don't know if my step father ever did.
I can remember times of him making me feel extremely uncomfortable.
walking in to the bathroom when I'm in the shower.
(It was a stand up shower, with no curtain) or pressuring me to lay down with him on the couch. basically spooning me and feeling awkward.


He was extremely emotionally/physically abusive.
he was an angry hotheaded man who drank a lot of beer, and was controlling.he would tell me things like " your boyfriend doesn't really like you, he's just using you for sex, i know how men are" he would make comments on my apperance "you got fat" or " you should go back blonde, wearing dresses like you used to" he would follow me around in his car, sit outside my friend's houses, start harassing them, yell at me to go to bed when i was being quiet in my bedroom, reading/watching tv when i was 16, storm in to the bathroom when i was washing my face and getting ready to go to bed, tell me to go to bed, and then turn the light off knowing i was in there, call me names, black mail my mother "if you don't send her to a group home i'm leaving" He was just horrible. he would hit me and then lie about it to my mother. call the cops on me knowing i was on probation and would go to jail. go through my belongings, read my journals, listen to my phone conversations, and then yell at me to get off the phone.

He has been out right nasty to me, he's hit me, and made me cry, and then he would come sucking up, telling me he loves me. and then would bribe me in to taking me out to eat wherever i wanted, or buying me whatever i wanted. Almost like he didn't want me going to my mother. It felt like he was trying to get her agaisnt me , and on his side. He tried to make me out to be crazy. when really he just drove me crazy.

I heard that physical abuse can sometimes lead to sexual abuse? This isn't the first time I have had this sort of dream. I don't know how to feel.

Hello mommaxo: I'm so sorry you have had to endure such abuse. Your stepfather clearly has his own mental health problems. Unfortunately he is either not willing, or not able, to recognize this himself. And so, by his actions, he has added mightily to your problems.

I don't know about the relationship between physical abuse & sexual abuse. I would presume there is a strong link though.

I believe there are no "shoulds" with regard to the feelings one might have about something like this. You feel whatever you feel. And whatever your feelings are, they are legitimate. This sort of experience can, however, be confusing. And left unresolved, your feelings can become overwhelming over time. So I hope you have the opportunity, either now or in the near future to talk all of this through with a therapist who is experienced in working with sexual abuse victims. My best wishes to you...

I've had sexual dreams about my father.

He also was an emotionally and physically abusive alcoholic.

While I do remember some inappropriate comments and some touching that I wouldn't class as abuse but kinda odd I really have no memory of him doing anything nearly as extreme as in my dreams. I just don't get the feeling that he actually did anything and I'm too scared to really think about it in case of false memories.

I was totally creeped out to the point where I googled it. If one is to believe dream interpretations then it is supposed to mean a yearning for a closer relationship with the person.

I don't get the impression that would be the case for you though.

Obviously I can't say whether or not you're having flashbacks but if you have a T you should consider talking to them. Hopefully they can point you in the right direction.

I used to have sexual dreams about my mother's ex boyfriend, though this was while he was living with us not recently. I've learned that a lot of his behavior towards my sister and I was a lot more sexual in nature than I had been willing to admit (and still not sure how much of it I really admit, at least on my end, it was a lot more overt with my sis). I feel as though my brain was extrapolating from the cues I was getting, even though he never actually touched me.

It's hard to say whether your dreams are based on repressed memories or not, but from your description your stepfather's behavior was very inappropriate and likely sexually motivated even in the absence of an obvious sexual act, your mind may be building your dreams from those experiences.

I don't think it matters whether he actually did the physical deed or not. His invading your private space amounts to the same thing. Though it's a matter of degree, the feeling of his violating the normal boundaries whether he touched you or not is the same. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.