[runningturtle]

not sure where to go at this point figure I'd start here. Am getting ready to sell our home and buy mother in laws house and take care of her. On top of that I am taking care of brothers things and animals since he broke parole after being convicted of molesting a child. This just really totally sucks and about at the end of my rope but so want to hang on is why came here. My oldest brother molested me is why I keep helping my younger brother cuz I have no clue what happened to him as we grew up. Biggest thing that keeps me hanging on to him and helping him is watching the **** that happened to him just at the dinner table. It made me sooooooo angry .... He could do no right by my father as he ate it was nothing but complaining about how he was sitting how he was acting how he just was grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I stand up for him one day and get the **** smacked out of my me. I hate this right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ripose]

To start off,is anyone in physical danger in your new situation (including yourself)?
Are you receiving treatment for PTSD?
Is your younger brother living with you in your MIL place now, along with you and spouse?
Does the older brother come to visit?
Is there 1 or 2 older brothers that have molested?

Questions aside, I would hope you are in a place now that protects you from direct contact with your older brother(s) and I also hope your MIL understands what is going on. An older woman can be quite a comfort at times like this. Your spouse can help a great deal as well if he/she fully understands the situation.

Hopefully you can clarify your situation a little better for us so we may know how best to guide you. And see a therapist/psychiatrist if you have not done so yet.

[runningturtle]

Originally Posted by Ripose

To start off,is anyone in physical danger in your new situation (including yourself)?
Are you receiving treatment for PTSD?
Is your younger brother living with you in your MIL place now, along with you and spouse?
Does the older brother come to visit?
Is there 1 or 2 older brothers that have molested?

Questions aside, I would hope you are in a place now that protects you from direct contact with your older brother(s) and I also hope your MIL understands what is going on. An older woman can be quite a comfort at times like this. Your spouse can help a great deal as well if he/she fully understands the situation.

Hopefully you can clarify your situation a little better for us so we may know how best to guide you. And see a therapist/psychiatrist if you have not done so yet.

no one is in danger. Oldest brother died 3 yrs ago. younger brother is in prison for breaking parole his original charge was molesting and he will not be living with us. I am not receiving treatment for PTSD but did for 10 yrs in the past. At this time I am not able to see therapist since hubby retired and have no insurance. I will be looking into other options as suggested to me though.
I chose to take my younger brothers animals in and holding his things for when he does get out of prison The maximum time he has left to serve out of 20 yrs is 3 1/2 yrs. Emotions vary from caring to anger.