As some of you may know, i have been admitted to hospital following an acute mental breakdown and will be going to a psychiatric Priory unit tomorrow. A massive reason for my mental illness is the severe sexual abuse I suffered as a child from my uncle. He is a psychopath and is the most evil person i think i will ever encounter from now on.

Anyway, i disclosed this year and have lost contact with him thank god.

He had the NERVE to text my mother, who is sitting in hospital right now practically having a bloody breakdown herself:

'Hope 8888an8888 is alright, send her all my love and wishes and that i am thinking of her, love her uncle.'

Okay. So to you, this text may seem nice. But it is not nice at all. He is TORTURING me. he is trying to get back into my head - any contact from him immediately traumatises me and he KNOWS this.

I don't even know what to do. It made me want to SI. I just cannot believe he had the fking audacity to send that to my mother, as if he is a little martyr, a Good Samaritan and only wants the best for me, when he thought it perfectly reasonable to rape me at the age of 4 and carry on for 8 years after that.

I am so *******ed angry and vulnerable and i can barely breathe.

I would let the hospital staff know about this and have him banned from further attempts to contact you.

If your parents can't honor and respect the damage this bastard has done to you and forbid him from attempting any contact with you, then perhaps the hospital needs to ban them too!

This totally sucks and it also sabotages your healing process!

Feel free to show this to your parents and tell them I said to do the right thing for you or go pound sand!

Originally Posted by Pfrog

I would let the hospital staff know about this and have him banned from further attempts to contact you.

If your parents can't honor and respect the damage this bastard has done to you and forbid him from attempting any contact with you, then perhaps the hospital needs to ban them too!

This totally sucks and it also sabotages your healing process!

Feel free to show this to your parents and tell them I said to do the right thing for you or go pound sand!

Thanks pfrog, i am trying to get this across to my mother who believes he is 'being nice' and genuinely cares. She is still attached to him.

I just can't even fathom... What. Agh. WHY ARE MY PARENTS NOT ANGRY ABOUT THIS? I bloody hate all my family. God knows i should have been born into another one.

[gayleggg]

I'm angry and I'm not your parent but if I was the guy would probably be dead. (I did take a gun and threaten a guy who was stalking my daughter once)

I do not know how this person who has done such things can turn around and pretend all is well and that they care, when it's obvious by his past actions that he is trying to hurt you even more.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this right now, but maybe it's good you are in a facility where maybe they can get you some help dealing with his shenanigans.

Hold your head up high. I'm proud of you for outing this guy. I hope other mothers listen and protect their children from him.

Sorry I'm ranting now. I'll stop. Take care.

[Frankbtl]

Hi 8888an8888, the "absolutely" in "absolutely furious" is a massive understatement, right???!!!
In terms of the message, obviously he has severe "problems" and maybe it wasn't meant to hurt you, maybe he thought that he was being nice in his perception........but the message was still totally "UNACCEPTABLE". I don't know if a restriction/no contact order from the police might be possible, as he is "in effect" still trying to contact you........could you have the hospital or unit check this out for/with you??
But regardless, please talk to the staff about the "incident", as there's no doubt whatsoever either that your mom is completely out of line as well. She should be wanting to protect you.........and to still be attached to him!!!!! Maybe they or the unit, could work with her on getting an REAL understanding, or minimally they could support you in "handling" her reaction/s. Although if this is a reflection of her attitude towards things maybe you can do with some (a lot of!!) space from her as well.
I am so sorry this has happened to you though, just please reach out for all the help/support they have to offer you, at the hospital and the unit. You deserve it!!!
And keep talking to us as well, hey?? We care!!

Alison

[mimsies]

So, This is the second time I have read this and tried to respond. The first time, I was so pissed off on your behalf, all I could think of was a large selection of colorful expletives.

I am so sorry you had to go through that in the first place. Whenever I hear about a sadistic sexual abuser, it always reminds me of the evil spawn I ran afoul of.

And now I am sorry that you are having him insert himself into your life now, totally against your wishes.

I am sorry your mother just doesn't get it.

If I could, I would protect you, and make sure nothing harmful got through to you.

Perhaps the staff at the hospital can require that your mother have her phone off when she is there with you so that she can't receive any messages from him while she is with you, and can't show them to you when she gets there.

Take care, and I hope you start healing and doing better.

[pbutton]

I am so pissed on your behalf. I get it. I really. REALLY get it. I have no words. I am so SO sorry.

[RedSun]

Oh 8888, I'm so sorry.
Want me to come over and run him over in my new car? Cos I will.

[BLUEDOVE]

Be the warrior you have shown to be,fight for dear
self and little self . . .you are all she has.
God Bless,
BLUEDOVE

[marmaduke]

Have you ever told the police, he could be sent to prison. I know that's hard, traumatic could you do it?
You say you've disclosed this year does that mean you have told the police?

He is not being 'nice' he is being a freak, playing 'lets pretend I've done nothing wrong.'
Your mother has boundary issues, otherwise she would hate this creep.

I've just read 'Through The Bell Jar'.

Be strong 8888an8888

[broadwaylove]

Same thing with me, except from my dad. He acts like an angel but is really a devil I'm disguise... says that he loves me and that he wants the best for me but then sexually abused me in the past and talks $**t about me behind my back. I feel your pain

[ThisWayOut]

I have similar situations with two of my abusers. I'm glad you are in a place that will allow you to get some help. I agree with the ideas that it would be beneficial for you to open up to the treatment team there. Hope they can help you out with it. And maybe they can get some family therapy going with your parents?

Good luck over there.