[mtd]

My kid did something very unsafe. He was not going to the before school program when I was dropping him off in the morning. I found out today. It's been going on for about a month. He won't tell me what he's been doing, but even if he's been just wandering around the school grounds, it's just not safe, obviously. There's nobody around at that hour if something goes wrong or someone tries to victimize him.

I got hurt with this kind of thing when I was a kid.

I was so upset with him tonight I couldn't even talk to him or look at him. I have been so afraid since finding this out. I don't want him to live through what was done to me. I'm trying not to think about this, but I can't help projecting the horrors I lived through onto him. It's like I'm desperate to stop him from making the mistake I did -- even though I know it wasn't my fault.

My reaction to him and this whole thing is making me shut down emotionally, but I can still feel my heart pounding. It hurts and I'm afraid.

mtd

[confused43]

mtd
can you explain to him that it is not safe for him to be unsupervised. can you tell him that not everyone is a good and loving person? May be yo can make sure he goes to the program after school by bring him there yourself.

[mick07]

Any idea why he doesn't want to go?

[Juliaspavlov]

Please keep talking to him no matter what! I shut down once upon a time with my son. Then he started hiding everything .Like wagging school and going to internet cafes where he met more unsavory characters.(but he saw them as friends) (I saw them as parasites)

If you hang in there with him and hug him and kiss him and anything else that comforts him .....he will connect with you again. How old is he is it not too late? hope u get help here at pc. love from a fellow mum