[joshuas-mommy]

I dislike sex and having sex with serious boyfriends. Now the mental health workers said that I have to take anti-psychotics because I dislike having sex.

[blue_eyed_panda]

Woah, is the dislike of sex recent or something you want to change? Cause there are some people who are asexual or demisexual and rarely/never like sex. If it's not caused by medication/physical condition or something you care about changing, did they give a reason to medicate you to "fix" that?

[joshuas-mommy]

They told me that normal people like to have lots of sex and I am abnormal.

[blue_eyed_panda]

It is VERY normal to not like sex or have a sex drive. You know the acronym LGBTQIA? The A stands for asexual. Asexualality is not common, but it is nothing that needs to be fixed.

I dunno if you're asexual, but if you are you don't need to be fixed and there is nothing wrong with you.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

We all have our own unique sexual or non-sexual way. I have had people tell me I am crazy because I don't do sex.

I know that I am *not* crazy. I am just working out my own way.

You have a right to do the same.

And if you never have sex for the rest of your life, that *still* does not mean something is wrong with you!

Carol

[Hexagram]

If you're being forced to take antipsychotics for asexuality you should talk to a lawyer. That's seriously wrong.

[Atypical_Disaster]

The logic of this is so backwards, antipsychotics are pretty well known for killing a person's sex drive! Totally nuts on their part!

[wheredidthepartygo]

i don't like sex either, i don't like someone being that close to me
perhaps they're thinking it might help with the problems you're currently having and if you mentioned your dislike of sex perhaps they assumed you were thinking of that as a problem as well
maybe if it's not a recent thing (has it been going on since before your child was born?) you should let them know so they can differentiate it from any newer "symptoms" that have arisen that they're suggesting be helped with antipsychotics

[joshuas-mommy]

Originally Posted by wheredidthepartygo

i don't like sex either, i don't like someone being that close to me
perhaps they're thinking it might help with the problems you're currently having and if you mentioned your dislike of sex perhaps they assumed you were thinking of that as a problem as well
maybe if it's not a recent thing (has it been going on since before your child was born?) you should let them know so they can differentiate it from any newer "symptoms" that have arisen that they're suggesting be helped with antipsychotics

I don't remember when I started disliking sex. I didn't like having sex with my boyfriends when I was in middle school. I felt like I was being sexually abused. I was previously sexually abused as a child. Then, I enjoyed having sex. Them, I didn't like having sex again in my early 20s. My son's dad I sometimes enjoyed and sometimes didn't. After I gave birth, my son's dad wanted to have sex before I even healed up (about 3 weeks). He said he was a man and he had needs. He told me after we had sex that he didn't like it and I had a big vagina. Then, ever since then I disliked sex.

[divine1966]

Please tell your doctor what you told us. About being abused and so in. I am very sorry you were abused as a child. Was it ever addressed with authority and mental health providers?

And I see you mentioned having sex in the middle school. That clearly isn't unusual anymore so I am not shocked . But I can't imagine any girls in middle school actually enjoying it. That's too young to even know what's going on

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[Big Mama]

Originally Posted by joshuas-mommy

I don't remember when I started disliking sex. I didn't like having sex with my boyfriends when I was in middle school. I felt like I was being sexually abused. I was previously sexually abused as a child. Then, I enjoyed having sex. Them, I didn't like having sex again in my early 20s. My son's dad I sometimes enjoyed and sometimes didn't. After I gave birth, my son's dad wanted to have sex before I even healed up (about 3 weeks). He said he was a man and he had needs. He told me after we had sex that he didn't like it and I had a big vagina. Then, ever since then I disliked sex.

That is terrible. So many aspects of this is so not right. First off the meds will make your sex drive be nonexistent. Mine is nonexistent because of the meds.

CSA (child sexual abuse) will often make sex feel like abuse. In previous relationships and in a married relationship as well. I was sexually abused as a child and raped as a teen and I have no use for sex. It is a way to make children that is all. I have absolutely no sexual desire.

It also sounds like your husband is triggering thoughts of abuse from long ago. His reaction to sex after the baby was born was WRONG. If you feel badly about sex with him then the things he told you are partially to blame for that decline. Shame on him and it is his fault you are not so receptive.

"When the Woman You Love Has Been Sexually Abused" is a great book on this subject. It is a book you can read together or that you can read to better understand yourself, and maybe even share some tidbits of info with him.

You sound so much like me. I was sexually abused, I don;t like having sex even with my husband. (and I didn't with previous partners either) Meds have not helped, and they won't. That is the nature of an anti-depressant.

Do you have insurance? How old is the baby? The reason I ask is if the baby is under 6 weeks old you may be able to claim "Postpartum Depression" (even though it is not) and the insurance may cover Therapy. It is then a childbirth related illness. Even medicaid will cover it. That is what I had to do in order to get to see a Therapist in the beginning. I went our family Dr and he made a referral. The Therapist immediately saw that it was not postpartum depression but wrote it up as if it was and medicaid covered 10 additional weeks of therapy.