Breakthroughs and Progess with EMDR

I am just more and more amazed each week!! I am having some really great breakthroughs and seeing my responses and some of my bad or not bad, but unhelpful, behaviors for what they really are and being able to make different choices.

One of my unhelpful behaviors is that I don't make friends well, what I do do is at work, I tend to latch on to someone that I like and "chase" them, over share, try to make them be my friend. Well, we worked on that last week, and over the past week, especially today I have been having these revelations that have just really made thing clear! I am going to them not for friendship, but for positive reinforcement.

When I was young my SM was so unpredictable. I could go to her one moment and she would be GREAT, but ten minutes later, she could be mean or completely ignore the fact that I am even there.

So what happens is I go to these people that give me positive feedback every time to continue to get the positive feedback. Even though they don't come to me I keep going to them, daily, or even multiple times a day. Now I am realizing what I am doing and deciding that I don't need to do it!

What a relief!

I'm seeing a trauma T and going to be starting EMDR. Very nervous. Glad it's helping you. Hope it will help me too. All the support to you

I have just had two sessions of EMDR so far, both positive. The second one was really tough, but I know I have the help here to shift the trapped memories.
It is harder having to come home to a relationship of 18 years that has nigh on completely disintegrated....coming home from a session really positive to then face the pain of falling apart as a couple. but I know some of our difficulties are because of the childhood trauma (and indeed childhood problems for my wife).
As EMDR shifts that, our relationships with others, whether partners, friends, work colleagues, will indeed become clearer.

It is possible that the as the EMDR works for you and the behaviors change, it may resolve some of the problems within the relationship. I know it has made a big difference in how I relate to the people at work. It is improving all of my relationships.

Yesterdays session was a bit rough. I thought it was going to go as well as the others had, but have run into a brick wall.

We were working on an issue that I have due to being neglected and abandoned. I don't trust that people will do what they say they will because of it. That goes for making appointments or plans with friends. I never truly expect that people will show up. We were focusing on trusting people and all of a sudden I got extremely scared, wanted to hide, and then I shut down. My mind just said no more. Done. Not ready. Don't know what's next. I was extremely agitated. I don't know why that happened and it was strange because in each of my sessions I had powered right through the pain and fear and tears, etc. Not yesterday, nope, no way. I am still really agitated about it.

Hopefully some of this will process this week and I can get to the bottom of it.