[-Astral-]

Told my sister about the priest that abused me
she said i should have reported him
...feel bad ...he could have abused other ...that be my fault
he dead now
...i feel guilty for not reporting him
....am going to hell like he said

[QueenCopper]

Don't feel guilty! He could have abused others but that is not your fault. Reporting it does not necessarily stop more abuse from happening. Unfortunately there could have been more before you that did not report it. Be gentle with yourself. I am proud of for telling someone, that is not easy. You have taken another step!

[bearguardian]

Last year I have step by step distanced myself from christian influences. And you are not going to hell. Well, maybe we are in hell. But true devils usually wear saintly suits and robes.

[Luce]

The only people responsible for child abuse are child abusers. If you - as an adult - haven't abused a child, your conscience is clear. There are no ifs or buts with that one.
The only exception to the 'if you haven't abused a child part' is if you have abused a child when still legally a child yourself. That is a gray area.
But, you are not in any way shape or form responsible for the actions of your abuser. You are only accountable for the actions of you, and not telling about your abuse in childhood doesn't even come close to getting a one way ticket to hell. It doesn't even bring you anywhere near the ticket line.

[Frankbtl]

Hi -Asphyxia-

Firstly...........MAJOR kudos to you for telling your sister!!!!!
I know it can not have been "easy", so massive respect!!!!!

And...........NO-ONE is responsible for the actions of an abuser other than that abuser themselves.........NO-ONE!!!
I'd say that you're maybe looking at the reporting side of it from what "makes sense" now.......and particularly to some people who haven't been abused.....but you/we know that abuse isn't like that, right??!!
The abuse and the abuser often takes away/robs that power of speech, leaves you mute, "seperates you", leaves you feeling at fault (although you aren't!!), makes you feel like it belongs to you too, makes you feel "less than", makes you feel you'd be judged or disbelieved...........for lots of different reasons it can leave you completely helpless/powerless in saying anything to anybody.
And that is a result of the abuse/the abuser, not you!!! Abuse that you never, ever deserved to happen to you!!!
So........a little more self-compassion, hey??
I'm positive you have been through more than enough, without taking on the responsibility, responsibility you DO NOT deserve, for any actions of someone who would have already hurt you so much
You deserve compassion, kindness and caring..........now you'll find plenty of that on here, but please try to find some of that in yourself for yourself as well.........you deserve that

Alison