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and like a flooded river it floods fast and lowers ever so slowly. This is how I feel about all the abusive relationships I was in. The river was lowering a little but is on the rise again. Tomorrow I have to face the abuser at the second pre-trial conference. This is the passive aggressive bully wife who had me have my cats put to sleep after I called the wedding off. She is very good at what she does. I know they have a thread for these types but after going to counseling a few times and reading about the disorder it's very hard to treat. She was so powerful that I'm a different person today than 10 years ago. We have not lived together for a year and a half. Even after she left the flood was rising. I have noticed the river went down a little but she doesn't want to lose me because I'm her favorite one to abuse. She can't stand it that I went public with this. The problem is no one believes me. She left in a hurry as they like to abandon there prey. It was no relief for her anymore when Was telling her what she was going to do next. Now in the divorce process and 4 attorneys later and $7,000.00 later I wonder am I doing the right thing?

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Today at the 2nd trial hearing for the divorce. The reason for the Second hearing. The attorney filed a motion to withdraw. She filed on a statue of cleint attorney ethics. She first tried to file saying I terminated her. I didn't but did chew her out for negotiating with my ex-to-be and her attorney and then telling me this is the way the divorce settlement is. I made the judge really upset. I was not trying too. I apparently was asking things that are supposed to be asked in court. They were yes or no questions. This is one of the questions dad died in 2008 and left me .the ex-to-be, my brother and his wife land 42 acres is farm land 44 acres is woodland. We have a trailer and pole barn. It's in a survivor ship deed? I sked my former attorney many times what is this a survivorship deed with no reply. I done my own research. The last won living owns the land. We all have use of the land but can't sell any unless all agree. The land is of know value to me, yet I have to have it appraised. I asked her why I had to have it appraised if it's of no value and she couldn't give me a answer except that I had to do it. More money! My wifes attorney is in contempt of court. A year ago they were supposed to have a FDS done. I asked my former attorney many times for a copy I never got one. So my new attorney sent a copy. There is no signature or date. It's invalid and missing the sale of her house to her daughter. I asked this why is that not on there oh boy she let me have it. That's for the trial huh. You have to know this though the judge, attorney and my mother in law all worked at the same law firm for 25 yrs. I'm very down about this.

[eyesclosed]

This is to big for me to handle. The contempt of court starts with the commissioner of courts. He new they didn't submit a valid FDS. I don't have enough power to attempt this. The county I live in everything has a association, fraternity or family it's not public but you don't mess with these things or you could be profiled so I think it's best foe me to let it go. I did rattle the cage about this problem and hope will finalize the divorce.

[Open Eyes]

eyesclosed, from what I have been reading it sounds like your attorney is not doing the right job for you. I am sorry this has been leading to you fending for yourself so much. Sadly, there are crappy attorneys out there in the legal game.

It also sounds like everything each party owns that has value has to be recorded. The problem with attorneys is that their main interest is in their paycheck and billable hours. Unfortunately, they can begin to look at practicing law in a matter of fact way that can be hard on challenged clients that are often surprised by all the twists and turns involved with the legal process.

The average person tends to think that when someone doesn't fight things out in the legal system and just settles that means they must be guilty. However, that is not the truth but instead people tend to settle because they don't want the challenge dragged out which can actually mean for "years".

[eyesclosed]

Yes you are so right. The new attorney gave me my file right away from the other attorney. Who you know is also abused . This is sad but true he wants nothing to do with convicting these powerful people. My ex-to be has basicly held me prisoner so she can get a few more kicks in on me. I did get there attention so ihope to have it over with . Thanks

[eyesclosed]

It took 1 hr of sitting at a table to make my combo of mental illness to flood my entire system I fell asleep in a painful moaning cry the flood is on the rise drowning out any chance of wellness.

[Open Eyes]

((eyesclosed)),

If you can, when you feel flooded like this don't tell yourself there is no healing/wellness. I know it can feel that way some days, but a bad or bad days pass. I was involved with a legal battle for almost 9 years so I know first hand how draining that can get, PS, I have PTSD too.

[eyesclosed]

It sure is a hard thing not to do my dog is good at distracting me when he senses my sadness.

[eyesclosed]

Hello
Now I get to do another FDS {Financial Dis-closer Statement}. This is mt 4th and she hasn't did one yet. If this was flipped around and with all the abuse and hiding money I would have a mob of woman with signs saying who knows what about me but when a wife does it were men we can take it no big deal. Oh well who cares?

[eyesclosed]

This being abandoned has shocked me to the core and then losing my family support was like the fatal blow to my recovery of this abuse. I will never enter in a human realatoinship again.

[eyesclosed]

The flood is rising every hour there isn't enough room for all the pain it has to come out so more can come in

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now more abuse from doctors attorneys everybody can get a free shot on me I don't care keep it coming the agency that is supposed be my advocate won't even investigate the doctor I have been bargained out of ins network so they can get rid of me my own family was going to put me in a mental hospital and move my ex-to be wife in to take care of my mom it was her plan go ahead gine me more I love being abused it's my purpose in life, I expect nothing else even my therapist said he takes all the problem people