[Depressed-Fiance]

Is it possible that even once you have ended a relationship with your partner who was psychologically abusive, controlling and money grabbing that they can still continue to be vindictive and controlling even when you are no longer in their lives directly?

What I mean is, can they control you via text message/email etc?

I imagine at least part of you already knows the answer, but the quick answer is yes.

[Depressed-Fiance]

Thanks. Yes I did think it was possible but wanted to verify.

Of course it's possible. A leopard never changes its spots, no matter what form of technology it uses to communicate with.

She will still be psychologically abusive, controlling and money grabbing and vindictive with you, now that you are broken up, because that's who she is, at her core.

When people show you who they are, believe them. She's shown you who she truly is. Believe her.

Surround yourself only with people who have your best interest at heart, who lift you up and support you in your pursuits and dreams in life. Everyone else, leave them by the wayside.

[peelejohn175]

Yes. But only if you allow your device to receive them.

[Depressed-Fiance]

Originally Posted by cielpur

Of course it's possible. A leopard never changes its spots, no matter what form of technology it uses to communicate with.

Very true. They are who they are and they will never change.

Originally Posted by cielpur

She will still be psychologically abusive, controlling and money grabbing and vindictive with you, now that you are broken up, because that's who she is, at her core.

That is so true. She has shown her true colours and I now see her for what she really is (naively I didn't see that fully at the time) but was convinced that her behaviour towards me 'wasn't totally normal'.

Originally Posted by cielpur

When people show you who they are, believe them. She's shown you who she truly is. Believe her.

Absolutely and a rule of thumb I will most definitely stick to.

Originally Posted by cielpur

Surround yourself only with people who have your best interest at heart, who lift you up and support you in your pursuits and dreams in life. Everyone else, leave them by the wayside.

I shall, because she never showed as much of an ounce in any of my interests but I always did with her interests etc. It felt very one sided to an extent.

I'm really proud of you for putting yourself first, DF. That's a step in the right direction!

Now you have experience with the type of relationship that you don't want, so you will be able to recognize the signs ahead of time, and avoid involving yourself with a woman who shares the same traits as your ex-fiance.

Stay strong!

[Depressed-Fiance]

Thanks Cielpur.

You are so caring, kind and supportive and I really genuinely appreciate it.

Well I am glad you were able to get most of your important things back, and had the courage to put yourself first, and to end a relationship that wasn't good for you.

[Hairball]

I agree with Cielpur, GOOD JOB

She will only be in your life if u let her. Stop w/texts, emails, any contact.

[TishaBuv]

They can't if you don't let them.

If she harasses you with lots of calls and texts, don't reply. No more contact. The 'storm' should die down in a while.

[Depressed-Fiance]

Thanks all for your helpful replies.

[alisej]

No way,how can someone dominate you after the relationship ended?disgusting