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Jun 20, 2018, 11:36 PM
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I was sexually abused by my mom. I recently went though a trial related to a rape when I was younger. My mom then testified against me in court. I had a long goodbye talk with her because I can’t bear to be in contact. But I also am so deeply lonely and longing for her. I hate this. Please help.
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Jun 21, 2018, 11:48 AM
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Hello Karentato: I'm sorry I don't have any insights to offer with regard to this. However I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral!
 I hope you find PC to be of benefit.  I'm sorry you are having to cope with these most difficult circumstances.  Hopefully coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support.  Another forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships & communication forum. Here's a link:https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/ My best wishes to you... 
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Jun 21, 2018, 01:26 PM
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Why would your mom testify against you regarding rape? How would she know what happened. I guess no matter how terrible a parent is, there is always that longing to be loved by them. You may want to consider therapy. xo
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Jun 21, 2018, 05:06 PM
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Yes,I think that's what it is,the child in you is still hoping for
love-it is a most powerful pull.But given your abuse from her,it is highly unlikely she CAN love at all. Try this book:"Self-Compassion" by Kristin Neff,she has web site too. Deepest Respect, BLUEDOVE |
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Jun 21, 2018, 07:39 PM
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Hi, welcome to PC and thanks for sharing.
My situation has many similarities. Was physically/emotionally abused, no support from Mom. I gave up on having the "loving mom". I went to therapy, had a great therapist who assured me there is no reason to continue a relationship with her. Being "Mom" doesn't mean really...anything. I went no contact a little over 18 months ago, best decision I ever made. So many things in my life have gone so right since eliminiating that toxicity. I urge you to do the same. Good luck and PM me if you ever need to talk.
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Jun 21, 2018, 07:43 PM
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I think it’s perfectly normal to feel sadness and grief for a mother... doesn’t sound like you truly had one. I can relate. I would think long and hard before I chose to reconnect with an abusive person.
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