so yesterday my mother sent me an email- and made it look all inosent

" hi emily, please find attached a song I like, the night has a thousand eyes by bobby v"

and you're thinking well, I love discovering new music, let's check it out

open the attachmemnt appropriately labeled " the night has a thousand eyes"

Possible trigger:

to find it is a clip of my mothers voice asking if I'm dead yet, and some sounds of guns in the background

what a sick, sick,. woman

she wrote to me again today telling me the guns were sounds she'd found on youtube

wow why would you make all that effert to do that to someone

wow

felt really triggered last night, and guess I am a little today too

[Emaa]

From your own mother! Really!? I can't believe that, isn't there more to it? Why does she treat you like that? Was there a fall out that caused you both to send each other death threats? what was she like raising you?

Originally Posted by Emaa

From your own mother! Really!? I can't believe that, isn't there more to it? Why does she treat you like that? Was there a fall out that caused you both to send each other death threats? what was she like raising you?

she's been abusive to me all her life- yep even when raising me.

I've often asked the same question, why- my conclusion is usually that some parents don't deserve kids.

Possible trigger:

I know she's wanted to kill me ever since she found out I was diagnosed with mental illness (and she's even tried her luck), but thankfully not succeeded

it's difficult to say, I guess

she got so sick of me she emigrated, and she just uses her time and her effer to be abusive
it's not just me, my brother and sister also

sad thing is.. she's now being abused herself by her boyfriend, and she thinks it's right and he's totally normal for doing it

[Amyjay]

Clear evidence that she is not to be trusted. Delete the emails. block the address. Every time you think she has found you again delete it without opening.
A question - you say you keep changing emails etc but she keeps finding you all the time. Is there someone inside who is communicating with her without your knowledge? Are there maybe emails "you" have sent to her disclosing your new details? If you haven't tried asking inside it might be time to start asking around in there.

Originally Posted by Amyjay

Clear evidence that she is not to be trusted. Delete the emails. block the address. Every time you think she has found you again delete it without opening.
A question - you say you keep changing emails etc but she keeps finding you all the time. Is there someone inside who is communicating with her without your knowledge? Are there maybe emails "you" have sent to her disclosing your new details? If you haven't tried asking inside it might be time to start asking around in there.

no no one

she'll usually just talk to people that comunicate with me on a daily basess and threaten their lives if they don't give her my new information

she's sick

[Erti]

Don't delete the email. Use it as prof of harassment.

[amandalouise]

(((((raging vortex))))) first know that what follows may be hard to hear but please hear me out....

question....you know your mother has abused you and your mother continues to cause you problems. what are you gaining by continuing to have contact with her?

answer this and you will have your answer on what you may need to do to help you not be constantly affected by her.

my own situation was different my parents were not my abusers but my abusers were related to me. they went to prison, did their time and got release. before their release I was not sure what I wanted to do so I got a protection order against the first one before his release.

upon their respective releases they tried contacted me. the second one I did not get a protection order against for a long time.

I put up with that ones cyber and real time harassment and I would get upset when it happened.

finally my therapist and wife asked me what was I gaining by continuing to allow this person to do what they were doing. I was allowing it by omission (by not setting my boundary line and not enforcing my boundary line) what was I gaining by allowing them to continue...

At first I was very angry that they would think I was allowing this to happen. then it dawned on me wow by dont nothing but complaining time and time again that abuser was getting what they wanted my emotional turmoil. what was I gaining... change is hard. they had abused me and my mind thats what was supposed to happen, they were family they were allowed... I had so many reasons and excuses why I didnt take action on this second abuser.

finally one day I said enough, I called the police, went in to court, got the restraining order and enforced it. that abuser felt my boundary instead of my betting hurt emotionally. it took a few more pushes and enforcing my line and my not being a compliant victim...but I am now free of that abuser.

so now I ask you what is the gains of this putting up with whats going on? where is your line that you are willing to put up and enforce to protect your self and your mind?

[*Laurie*]

Well, has your mother ever seen any kind of medical professional about her behavior? From what you've described, it sounds like she has a psychotic disorder of some kind. I mean, "sick" is putting it mildly.

[Rive1976]

Definately dont delete them in case you need them for evidence later.