Was this abuse?

So my mother was very strict white glove cleaner. Everything had to be perfect. We couldn't even have anything on our dresser. We were only allowed a bathe every other day. My mother also made sexual remarks about my body. Two that I remember were 1) you have a fat p*ssy 2) your boobs look like eyes. She also made fun of my Ocd issues. She told me if I ever hurt my sister she would lock me up after I cut. When I was 8 and having sexual behaviors because of whatever (I dont know the cause) she took me to an orphanage said get better or get out. I was only 8 when she did that. She slapped me once. She told my stepdad I wasn't to be liked only my sister was. I was 14 and for 6 years he made my life a living hell. Everything my mother got mad about he go mad about. He also slapped me in the face once. I never knew if my mom was going to hug me or scream at me when I went to her for anything. Did I come from an abusive home? I mean in some ways I feel lucky because what she came from was way worse. Then part of me is like she made my life hell.

Yes . This is deffinately abuse. The sexual comments is abuse. Putting you away when you was 8 is abuse . Threatening you is abuse. Treating you unkind compared to your sister is abuse . Hitting you is abuse .

Yes, that was ALL abuse....verbal abuse. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life.

I'm sorry for what you have been through. Take good care of yourself n see you get help xoxo

Yes that was all abuse by your mother. I'm so sorry you went through that.

Next time you post, could you please use the trigger warning within the post? I'm not sure how to do it and I've made the same mistake plenty of times.

Hugs

No problem. Sorry if I triggered anyone here.

I just want to clarify I didn't grow up in an orphanage. I was pulled up to the door and told get better or get out.

Yes, that is all abuse. Those are horrible things to do and say to a child.
All of those things would have had a negative impact on your self worth and self image and affected your social emotional development including relationships with others etc. None of that stuff was okay. It would have hurt the child-you in many ways.

Yes that was abuse, and inexcusable.
In my opinion she didn’t deserve to be a mother.
It may be worth looking into the scapegoat theory. I’m only suggesting this from the fact that she treated your sister in a completely different way to you.
I have had a very similar experience as my father was a malignant narcissist.
If you are curious to delve deeper then yes, check out info online about the scapegoat child.
Sorry for what you’ve been through and well done for getting this far,
FF