[Miravi]

Hello, so background story, my parents abused my sister and i and in turn i abused my sister. I said i won't do it again but yesterday i didn't feel well and i told her let's go out to eat even though i was not sure i wanted it to eat. I said it because she didn't want to go out at first but i didn't want to go out by myself. That's manipulation. But the problem is that i was very negative so she started feeling bad and said i don't understand why you are feeling like this. I have been abused more than you and here i am feeling better. Try and be positive and stop focusing on the negative. I feel like everyone reacts to abuse differently. Just because someone suffered more doesn't mean you have to be okay. So i feel like she shouldn't have said this but i was the one who made her feel bad so i can't blame her. Why am i so fixated on what she said? I feel like she hurt me with saying that but she wanted me to be positive and i hurt her first. Why can't i let go of this?

[Rive1976]

Howd you abuse your sister?

[Miravi]

Originally Posted by Dnester

Howd you abuse your sister?

It was emotional

[dlantern]

The ones you love can be most important, tell her you are sorry then move on. The relationship is most important when thinking on thing of this nature.

[12AM]

Originally Posted by Miravi

Hello, so background story, my parents abused my sister and i and in turn i abused my sister. I said i won't do it again but yesterday i didn't feel well and i told her let's go out to eat even though i was not sure i wanted it to eat. I said it because she didn't want to go out at first but i didn't want to go out by myself. That's manipulation. But the problem is that i was very negative so she started feeling bad and said i don't understand why you are feeling like this. I have been abused more than you and here i am feeling better. Try and be positive and stop focusing on the negative. I feel like everyone reacts to abuse differently. Just because someone suffered more doesn't mean you have to be okay. So i feel like she shouldn't have said this but i was the one who made her feel bad so i can't blame her. Why am i so fixated on what she said? I feel like she hurt me with saying that but she wanted me to be positive and i hurt her first. Why can't i let go of this?

Sadly when abuse happens to someone at a young age, there is a possibility (not always) that they will treat others the same way as they are treated, because those abusive behavior that they witness from their abusers (parents, for example) is the only thing they know of how to treat others.

Are you in therapy? Therapy will teach you some skills to handle this kind of problem you have, including how to let go of things and how to prevent them to happen again.