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Old Apr 11, 2019, 05:28 PM
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How have you moved forward to move past what happened with your abuser?

For me, I’ve blocked those people, and moved away so I would never run into them (small town and all) but I still find myself having A LOT of hatred towards my abuser and really want to get an idea about somethings others have done to move forward from what happened to them. Is there an “easy” way? Is there really any way?

Any advise would be great!
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Old Apr 15, 2019, 01:33 PM
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The only thing I think I can offer, with regard to this, is this link to a description of the practice that is referred to as compassionate abiding. It is my go-to practice for working with intrusive thoughts, difficult memories & emotions, anxiety & other assorted mental health challenges:

Relieve Distress By Allowing It: Compassionate Abiding 101 | Mindset: Perspective Is Everything

May it be of benefit.
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Old Apr 15, 2019, 02:11 PM
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This I believe is from DBT therapy but I believe it works. It has helped me have empathy even for the most awful people and has allowed me to move on knowing none of the abuse was my fault and not letting the abuser have anymore sway over me-including negative energy and power.

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Radical Acceptance means completely and totally accepting something from the depths of your soul, with your heart and your mind. You stop fighting reality. When you stop fighting you suffer less. That means you don't feel hot anger in your stomach whenever you see the person who got the promotion you deserved and you don't seethe with resentment when you see your best friend who is now dating your boyfriend. You accept what is, learn and go forward.
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Old Apr 15, 2019, 04:37 PM
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Old Apr 22, 2019, 09:32 PM
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Originally Posted by kstella95 View Post

Is there an “easy” way? Is there really any way?

Any advise would be great!
I don't know if you are single or not, but I think that a love of a good lifetime partner can become your great comfort.

It would be healing to be treated exactly the opposite way my abuser treated me. It would be consoling to be cherished with respect.
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