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Apr 11, 2019 at 05:28 PM
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How have you moved forward to move past what happened with your abuser?
For me, I’ve blocked those people, and moved away so I would never run into them (small town and all) but I still find myself having A LOT of hatred towards my abuser and really want to get an idea about somethings others have done to move forward from what happened to them. Is there an “easy” way? Is there really any way? Any advise would be great! |
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Apr 15, 2019 at 01:33 PM
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The only thing I think I can offer, with regard to this, is this link to a description of the practice that is referred to as compassionate abiding. It is my go-to practice for working with intrusive thoughts, difficult memories & emotions, anxiety & other assorted mental health challenges:
Relieve Distress By Allowing It: Compassionate Abiding 101 | Mindset: Perspective Is Everything May it be of benefit. 
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Apr 15, 2019 at 02:11 PM
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This I believe is from DBT therapy but I believe it works. It has helped me have empathy even for the most awful people and has allowed me to move on knowing none of the abuse was my fault and not letting the abuser have anymore sway over me-including negative energy and power.
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Apr 15, 2019 at 04:37 PM
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Hugs and positive vibes to all
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Apr 22, 2019 at 09:32 PM
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It would be healing to be treated exactly the opposite way my abuser treated me. It would be consoling to be cherished with respect. |
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