[CJR520]

Yesterday we were together here at our house. We were baling hay to give to daughter and son in law to feed a calf they just bought. So daughters sons were here, the oldest helping bale and the youngest, four, playing and enjoying the day. Our son and his wife and four kids came for a while also. My son abuses his eight year old daughter, and momma just sits and watches and seems to enjoy it. Daughters little four year old really surprised me yesterday while my son was going at the eight year old . He said "Leave Courtney alone, Mike, you are mean" Then, again, later on, my son was being abusive to her, and little Thad picked up a little yellow crabapple and threw it at my son, saying "Stop it Mike, you are a meanie" My son then grabbed Thad, the four year old, and smacked him pretty hard on the butt. Thad hid behind me, sobbing, and looked my son right in the eye again, and said, Mike, You are mean. Here I have been trying to talk to them about Courtney, and it comes out of the mouth of a four year old. They also abuse her mother who is living with them. They have been turned in to childrens services in Richland Col Ohio twice, and turned into Elder Abuse for abusing her mother mentally. The Apostolic church they go to comes to their rescue, and Richland County is useless. As a grandparent, it makes me sick.

[jmo531]

I am sorry to hear this. I would write a letter, call CPS, Social Services, whatever you have to do and get them involved. In todays day and age these types of accusations should be taken seriously by the authorities. I would also make them aware that if action is not taken, and someone is hurt, they can be help responsible. If that doesnt work, try calling the police and see what suggestions they can give you. There has got to be someone out there that can help these children. This is terrible.

Please be there for those kids as much as you can as they need you right now.

Please do keep is posted on this.

Hugs,


Jen

[wisewoman]

CJ, please keep making refferals to the right sources. Even if you went to Child protective services and explained what you saw. They would tend to take you seriously. As for the elder-abuse. Many elders don't tell for the same reasons we never told. Fear of pay back, rejection, institutionalization. You need to keep reporting that as well. It might take many visits from a worker before she lightens up enough to admit it. I really wish you luck and know my heart is with you and you are doing the right things. We must act to protect those who can't speak for themselves. It bears witness to the crimes done against us. May it never happen again. Poor little girl. What did your daughter do when her son was assaulted? She can even press charges. I personally like the knee up position myself in this case. Makes me ill as well.

I also wondered if you have told your son he needs counseling? Does he listen?

[wi_fighter]

CPS.......They just slap the perps' hand and tell him not to get caught doing it again. They don't say don't do it, just tell them not to get caught.

[wisewoman]

I am so sorry Wi. We need to fight for our children and ourselves. Make them pay attention. Write letters to congress and senate etc. I have to believe that we are trying to protect the vulnerable.

[dottie]

Hi.

I am sorry for your dilemma. Shame on the mother. Shame on your son. The pain that little girl is in must be awful. Keep fighting for those kids!

~Dottie

[CJR520]

I have tried to talk to them kindly til I am blue in the face. One thing is for certain!! The witnesses to this are piling up, and this will help me. Good idea, I will write congressmen. This is the kind of abuse that is hard to prove. Thanks all!!

[h0kie]

Get the school involved. Sometimes, if the child's school backs up the complaint more things happen. I would call the school and tell them what is going on and to keep an eye on the child. They will report the matter (because they are required to) if they know it is a problem.