[Junerain]

My abuser is my boss's son, Tony, who plays the role of boss oftentimes alongside his dad. He calls me all kinds of names, mocks me, belittles me, he knows he hurts me, and does it anyway, on purpose, with the goal being to hurt me emotionally......I have a good job interview to replace this job, if I get it, I plan on up and walking out in the middle of the waitressing shift if he emotionally abuses me one more time.................. just leaving, silently, as I am silent in these types of situations and if I say something as I walk out he will lash out worse. The whole thing is bizarre, as I have never in my life said anything mean to him not once no matter how cruel his comments were....you would think he would have no ammunition to keep attacking as I show no reaction, but he keeps going, keeps going....I have yelled back a couple times yet he gets worse that way too......I am nothing but sweet to him, the whole thing is odd. He says I %#@&#! him off, by not using a big enough spoon for the mayo the littlest thing and he screams at the top of his lungs......................

[bchlyn]

i am so sorry he treats you like that... have you talked to your boss about it?...it is wrong for so many reasons... i don't know if he would comprehend how much he has hurt you... and it almost seems that is what he is trying to do... when is your job interview?...lyn

[Kiya]

In my current situation (hopefully also changing) there is a new guy coming on board that has been totally rude to me both on the phone and in person - but when the boss is watching, he is just so sweet (and fake) and playfully hits me on the shoulder.... Grrrrrrrr
So! I am planning a little speech (since I am also quiet) for monday when he comes on full time... for the first time he bullies me into doing something for him.
I plan to say:
"Let's get something straight here - I am not a peon. Yes, I am your support staff and I am here to make you succeed. But I will be treated with respect and my time is just as important as yours. So - when you have something for me to do, you will ASK me if I can do it. If it is a priority, ASK me if I can rush it. Now then, what was it you were ASKING me to do for you???"
I am practicing it a lot, so it rolls right off my tongue. I have to take the upper hand right away here or i will become a trapled mat (again). I think my boss (a very stong female) will be ok with my saying that. Though I may be wrong - she REALLY likes him and already lowballed me for glaring at him. *sigh*.

[CJR520]

My abusers were my parents. My father who bullied and abused and screamed and yelled til I could not think, and I would shake and cry. Our mother stood by and just let him do this to her and to us. So, go aheadf and say your little speech. It sounds perfect!! Stand up for yourself, and then get another job. Maybe by speaking up, you will wake him up. Or, at the least, you will feel better about yourself! Good Luck!!!!!