I can't believe where I'm at !!

I'm 58 years old and my husband is going through mid life crisis at 61. It started over a 45 year old divorcing, flirting, woman at his work place. Never got to sex, but he surely wanted it, because I found out about it and ask questions and even talked to her. Anyhow, now he says I don't trust him. That has been going on since October, but I am just holding my own trying to wait for him to come out of it. It is gradually happening, but a lot of pain. He told me she was his best friend only knowing her since he moved to assembly in the factory two years ago. He told me he had no friends, bought a sports car that I know now was to impress her. We had a party last October that was supposed to be his dream party. Had a band and almost 150 people throughout the evening, all "friends" of his from grade school on. He has never danced with another woman in the whole 31 years we have been married, and won't even go out on a dance floor with me unless there are others out there first. So, he takes this gal by the hand, walking down through the whole crowd of friends and family, and takes her to dance, then afterward, they are standing talking to people holding hands. I waited til the party mess was cleaned up the next day to ask him about her, and he blew his cork. Told me she was his best friend, and he cared about her and it would take him a long time to get over her. I was heartbroken. He had even ask if she and another single girl could stay the night of the party overnight two weeks before that. He insisted that these two come and help get ready a few hours early, then, of course, throughout the evening, I figured out who he was really interested in, it was pretty obvious to a lot of people. Now, he is still angry on and off, and my mother is in mid stage alzheimers, and there is so much for me to deal with. My friends and bosses don't know how I am hanging together. I don't either right now. Am scared I'm going to crash!!

=( keep breathing - sounds like you are doing well.
i hope things keep improving for you!
Kiya