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Oct 25, 2009, 11:30 AM
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Ok, Im pregnant with my first child. I told my father (Who was abusive to me and my sister, both verbally and physically) and do you know what he said?
"I thought you said you had GOOD news."  And you know what he had the nerve to say? "How many children have I raised? 2! I can give you parenting advise! You will need it...."  Well he was right about one thing, he did give me some good parenting advice - how NOT to raise children. I promised myself and my sister when we were small, when we grow up, we will never hurt our children. I stand by that so strongly. He will not be at my wedding, He will never see his grandchild. While anger boils from me whenever I see my fiancee and his wonderful and loving parents, I also feel sadness. I know his parents will be at our wedding. I know that they will see our child. I know they will love our child. So, while a part of me is sad, the other part is over-joyed. Its too late for my father to be a part of my life. All those beatings, all those cruel things he said...all amount to what now that he is almost 57? Two daughters to dispise him, a wife that fears him...what does he have really?  Karma is a B**th.
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Oct 25, 2009, 07:52 PM
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So well said.
__________________
 Vickie
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Oct 26, 2009, 07:41 AM
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Safe hugs to you Nypheria. It is great that you are making a stand for yourself.
We have to do what is right for us. |
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Oct 26, 2009, 07:49 AM
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Fair and square is what your father is going to get (undeserving the tiltle though).
Also you should not fear the pain that is caused by the rude behaviour of your father and sister. It is the darkness which allows you to distinguish the light of your coming baby. It is the bitter taste of your past that shall contrast with the sweet future. And I hope you will find peace, pleasure and prosperity and even if your father would not be there at your wedding and at the moments that will proceed, it will be his misfortune. All the best!!! Regards ZILCH HOUR |
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Oct 26, 2009, 08:16 PM
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Nypheria,
Well done. Excellent boundaries. I'm sorry for what you have been through, though and I can relate to your sadness over what you did not have in life. You deserved better than you were given, but raising your child in such a safe, nurturing way and around only safe, truly loving family members will mean so much to you and your child. I wish you well. mtd |
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