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May 11, 2008, 12:38 AM
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I was reading a book about survivors and getting through it and just....stuff.
Well, I had a flashback....It was of my abuser and he was yelling at me, "THEN GET THE HELL OUT AND GO TO BED". I just see myself running out of the room. The only thing I can think of is that I refused to do....something....and he got mad. This was the first time I have a memory of him saying anything at all to me around the time when the abuse happening. I mean, the two memories I have, there are no words spoken...then this.  I just worry about what memory will come next. I just wish I could go through the healing process without flashbacks and memories...I just hate them so much!!   BJ
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May 11, 2008, 08:39 AM
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Remembering seems to be necessary for healing. Remember, remembering is not the same as having it actually happen again!
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Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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May 11, 2008, 09:12 AM
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yes we know..
But sometimes it does feel like its happening all over again... Either way... they suck alot take care Blue
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May 11, 2008, 10:35 AM
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I know it's awful when it feels like it's happening again. Talking yourself through it can help a lot, so that you can remember you are here, and now, and safe. I imagine myself on an enormous timeline, with the flashback happening far away from where I am right now. That helps, sometimes.
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#5
May 11, 2008, 03:31 PM
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Thanks everyone. I know it isn't happening now, but that fear feeling and the anxiety is something I need to work on.
I will try to think about the timeline thing. That is a great idea. BJ
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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May 11, 2008, 09:45 PM
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I know babe... hang in there and try to breathe through them - that can hold you gounded. In the past i used lavender oil to hold me present - it's scent is sharp and soothing at the same time. If it is the first cycle of flashbacks, it is extra super hard... they do get easier to handle... keep breathing.
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May 11, 2008, 10:14 PM
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Thanks Kiya. It's not the first flashback, but def. the most vivid and real. I forget to breathe, so thanks for the reminder!
BJ
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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#8
May 11, 2008, 10:29 PM
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Sending you a safe image.
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#9
May 11, 2008, 10:33 PM
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OMG, that is sooooo cute. It made me smile. Thank you!!!!
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