[Kiya]

I have moved this because i can't stand it - everyone's all sad that theyr dad died and i am sitting with so much rage, i can't possibly rant about it when they are greiving. please accept that i moved my post to where it should have been in the first place and ppl will totally understand.

Well, the day is upon us.
my dad's mom finally called my mom and asked if i would be sending him anything.
in my opinion, celebrating father's day is for those men who are actually *good* people and parents. just because he was the Sp*rm donor doesn't quailify him.
His mom told my mom that this "rift" between us is only a misunderstanding, miscommunication.
she has no idea - well, she should - she was THERE. but she'll always protect the abusive *%&$^.
If I did send a card it would go something like this:
Dear _______,
I am writing yo because I have to - because our society mandates it. But what I would really tell you is that you are so messed up, so loco in the cabasa, that I cannot have any contact with you any further. I know you think I am a bad person for this, and further more that you think you are the Father of all Fathers. But that is so far from the truth.
No "good" father would ever violate his daughter's boundaries. No good person would ever bring inc*st on their kids. Or harm kids in any way. Quite frankly, you deserve this - to have me never talk to you again. You deserve to be in jail for the rest of your life for the 12 years of sex abuse and 28 years of emotional and physical abuse that you caused me as well as my mom and your own mom. I can't believe you can still think of your self as a good person, after all you have done.

i can't continue this.

((( Kiya )))
I know how you feel.

[pachyderm]

yes... I have the same rage... hence my own thread... I can't say more Kiya.. because.. I would.. just be adding my pain to your pain.. and this is your thread... your opportunity to be heard...

I would like to see you shout it to the heavens... about how angry you feel... perhaps.. it would feel good to just scream.. and scream..
I haven't tried that.. so don't know..

my thoughts are with you...

[Kiya]

oh please - do add! I had started a thread for support in phy. but it turned into one of different intent. in my own anger i had never thought about those actually greiving their fathers' as loved ones.
please, do write. i could use the empathy, support, and reasons to support others that are aligned with mine.

((( Kiya ))) safe hugs if you want

For me this year's Father's Day is different because it is the first year I am a father.
Lots of my friends sent their dads cards, not a lot can relate to me.
I am sorry you have trouble with today too

[Kiya]

well, congrats on being a father! i didn't know. hopefully it will be a little different for you and maybe you will be able to take in a little of that love that has been so hard to obtain.

stay safe, kiya - and hugs back if you want them.

[Imiimage]

((((hugs))))) i agree with this. well done for posting. sorry you had to deal with all of that.

[mtd]

Good letter. It speaks so much Truth. Only in the Truth will we find serentity.

be well,

mtd