[Kiya]

that there was a thread around here about someone being very very angry. i know the person wanted it locked, but instead the thing seems to have up and vanished.

WHICH SUCKS.

There was a response to me and i didn't get to read it. =( Also, when things just go up and missing it completely invalidates (at least it feels to me) the people who wrote. I can understand that ppl get up set about stuff, and i guess i can understand that things have to be locked for "protection" or what ever (even tho it feels like dominion and control to me). but i cannot understand things being taken away and competely deleted. It angers me, it upsets me, it takes me back to my f-ed up past where things would go missing just because and makes me small again and powerless.

[sabby]

(((((((((((( Kiya )))))))))))))

Normally a post like this would be removed for discussing admin/member issues on the forums....which is against the guidelines.

But because the fact that that post has been removed is a triggering issue for you I wanted to address it here, in hopes that it may help you understand and others too.

There are times when threads are locked and/or removed because of guideline infractions....and also times when the OP has asked for them to be locked or removed. It is not meant to intimidate or hurt anyone. I'm sorry that this bothers you so much.

Please know that anytime something like that happens and you are upset by it, you are more than welcome to pm a mod/admin regarding the lock or removal. We will do our best to help you understand as much as we can.

There are always rules and/or guidelines that need to be used and followed in a forum site such as this. There is just no getting around it.

These situations are not meant to trigger or make you feel small and powerless.


sabby

(((((((((((((((((((Kiya)))))))))))))))))

I asked for the thread to be closed,I was the original poster. I felt it upset and hurt others, I didn't wish to upset you or anyone else by removing it .... for me people had supported and initially i was angry,to be honest it just made me sad it being there .... i'm sorry, this wasn't intentional, to hurt .... i hope you understand ....

Jin

[Kiya]

=( jinny - i understand. i didn't get to read your reply tho.
and your asking to have it removed helps me understand. i have to have cognitive reasons for things before i am ok with them.

internally i am still dealing with and realing from other stuff (including my rant about things going missing). it's my stuff and i know that - and it may mean i have to make some new choices about where i invest my time.

thanks for the explanation.

kiya i try so hard to please, i can't please everyone and this is one of those times i have let YOU down. It saddens me to think that i have ..... please don't avoid this place or forum because of me ...... i felt my anger was hurting people, and the day i posted it i was angry, triggered, upset and can't even remember halfof what i'd posted until i read it the next day....

It has nothing to do with what you said ..... i took in your reply, said my daughter read wiccan and paganism and i understood how you dealt with it if i remember rightly ..... there was no bad reply, i thought i'd upset you too .... please don't spend your time elsewhere ..... Jinny xxx

[Kiya]

No hon - I'm trying to say that you did just fine. you did what you had to do. I understand. I'm just dealing with my own shhhhhhhaving cream. please. you're right, no one can please everyone and really shouldn't try to - doing so only causes pain inside.
you haven't let me down (least of all). you helped by explaining your choice.
anyone who comes to PC has a lot of baggage to sort through - that is the good thing about it; having a place to do that.
i got upset (and have been before) because of prevailing patterns from life that i have seen here.
i wish you wouldn't take it as something you did. you did nothing wrong. ok??
i know i have far too much of my own baggage to sort.
we ok?
((((jinny)))))
i'm concerned. i don't want to hurt you either =(

((((((((((((((((((((Kiya)))))))))))))))))))

We're fine sweetie, big huggies to you, what are we like lol.... glad we're understanding, love ya hon, take care, Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox