[cuddlgrl]

i found my brother 2 weeks ago. i havent seen him in 15 years. my mother changed her name and dropped off the face of the earth around that time. she hates everyone, her family, me, people in general. she told my brother all these really horrible things about me. things that are not true, and these things have upset me terribly!! i think that she might be schitzophrenic, some of the things that she has said has never happened. she has always done this. when i was little she would tell me horrible things about my grandparents, her parents. when i finally got to meet them and spend time with them none of the things that she said were true. she says she hates her sister because she peed the bed until she was 13 and she had to sleep with her. this is the reason she gives for never speaking to her!! that is insane. i thought that time might have changed her, calmed her down, but it doesnt seem like it has. i even told my brother that i was sorry for anything that i may have done to make her mad at me, but she still wants nothing to do with me. im not going to try anymore. when people are really suspicious, always thinking people are talking abou them, think the whole world is out to get them, and they alienate themselves is that scitzophrenia or bipolar? i am so upset, i thought maybe we could have some kind of realationship, i need my mother but she is not well. she told my brother that she doesnt talk to me is because i put a gun to her head, omg this is so crazy!! i have been so, so upset after hearing that. i dont think i have even ever yelled at her. one time my grandparents had come into town to see her and she told them that she was fixing dinner and she couldnt open the door. she would do that sort of stuff all the time, anyone have any suggestions of what might be wrong with her?

[pachyderm]

> anyone have any suggestions of what might be wrong with her?

I think some people, when they are so frightened and out of control, have to have some explanation for what is going on, so they make things up -- things like what someone else did to them. It sounds to me as though she is, in a way, totally panicked. It is NOT your fault!

[sabby]

(((((( cuddlgrl )))))))))))

Welcome to PC! I hope you find the support you are looking for and need here.

Unfortunately, we cannot diagnose your mom. I will say that it sounds like she is ill. I'm very sorry that her illness has affected you and your family in such a harsh way. I think you are trying very hard to understand and have compassion for your mom. I know it's not easy.

It might do you some good to speak with a therapist to get out all that is going on. They can help you to help yourself in your understanding and dealing with your mom. Of course, you are most welcome to continue posting here for the support you need. There are many wonderful folks here who may have gone through some of the same things you are going through.

I hope you find some peace and some answers to your questions. Please remember to take good care of yourself. Wishing you well!


sabby