[RozG]

expecting anything else but abuse anyways? but maybe we got it stamped on out foreheads huh? whatever!!!!

[SeptemberMorn]

Oh, yes, there is a point! Stop, Think, Act. Is it really abuse or is it your perception? If it's abuse, you now have the power to stop it. Simply say "I will not accept this treatment from you". If your boundaries are not respected, say "I will no longer accept this treatment from you. Please stay away from me from now on." Walk away, put the person on Ignore if it's here, turn it in to Admin or simply, IGNORE.

[RozG]

((((September))))


I know here i can put on ignore ty....i meant in IRL....it feels like peeps like me have stamp on head saying always been abused carry on, ya know?

But you are right about boundaries and that is something peeps here are finally trying to teach me...it is just hard ya know....to tell diff between care and contol...which is a form of abuse...

but ty for answer. really!

peace and love,
eoz
xx

[ginniesky]

(((((rozg)))) hey there sweetie . i don't mean anything bad by sweetie i hope it doesn't bother you let me know if it does...... i know what you mean by feeling like that sometimes i feel like the words "abuse her she deserves it" are actually written somewhere on my body i hate that feeling ..... i am sorry you are struggling so much.
~jen

[Fuzzybear]

It does feel like it sometimes.....

(((((((((((((( Roz )))))))))))))))

[multipixie9]

Roz - I used to think so, I called it "The Mark". Like an invisible target painted on my soul that predators could detect!!! I HATE THAT!!!!

NOT all people are abusers. Life won't always be like the past. Things can improve and we can get well. I've been experiencing it.

I'm sorry things are so tough right now for you. It is hard to learn how to put up healthy boundaries. I'm still learning that and I feel like I've had to put so many up that I'm all alone behind my boundaries.

Right now I'd rather be alone for a while until I can sort some things out. It's hard, but I have to find a way to change my life some.

I hate that the person I should be able to trust the most, doesn't believe me about my past. That is horrible. Sorry...

I believe you will find support on here and I hope you feel better soon.
HUGS (if you want them),

Leslie

[RozG]

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(((((rozg)))) hey there sweetie . i don't mean anything bad by sweetie i hope it doesn't bother you let me know if it does...... i know what you mean by feeling like that sometimes i feel like the words "abuse her she deserves it" are actually written somewhere on my body i hate that feeling ..... i am sorry you are struggling so much.
~jen

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((((((((ginniesky))))))))

i'm sorry you feel like this sometimes too. thank you for your support, it means a lot.

and btw....no, the word sweetie does not bother me but thanks for thinking to ask.

love & hugs to you if ok,
roz
xx

[RozG]

((((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))

[RozG]

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It is hard to learn how to put up healthy boundaries. I'm still learning that and I feel like I've had to put so many up that I'm all alone behind my boundaries.



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Yes, i have to agree learning to put up healthy boundaries is still very hard for me. And learning to do it in a way you don't feel totally isolated is hard too.

I'm truly sorry the person you should be able to trust the most has let you down in this way, i know how much that hurts.

And as for pc...yes, it is a good place for support and it is helping me in numerous ways.

I hope you feel the support you need is here too?

Love & hugs to you if ok,
roz
xx