[glimmer]

I thought i was going to be able to take the big plunge today and set up an appt with a t. I went to the insurance's listing and there are 198 t's listed with 47 women. I dont know if a man or a woman would be better. i dont want to talk to my pcp about it and thought that since i found out i dont really need a referral i could start that way. It is such a huge list, and noone really seems to specialize in childhood sex abuse. at least they dont list it. I have no idea where to start. I dont want to contact each one and say "hey, i was looking for someone to help me deal with being r*p*d when i was a kid, but i dont want to bring it up right away, maybe work up to it, what dya say?" you know? I wanted i guess to find someone who worked with depression and... oh yeah csa and I could develope a relationship first and then maybe bring it up on my own terms. I dont know who to turn to or what to do. It just seems like every time i try to take a step foward there are these rediculous hurdles standing in my way. I just dont know how to find the help i need. I cant just jump in with both feet the way everyone seems to want me to. I feel so alone and vulnerable in all this. 198 people! I just feel like I should forget all of this, have anouther drink and move on. I''m 27 yrs old and should be over all this by now anyway. I dont know i feel really helpless right now, and dont know where to go from here. Any advise?

[pachyderm]

Finding a good therapist seems to be one of the hardest things to do, especially if you do not have someone to refer you. Are the local public mental health clinics any good?

[emilyjeanne]

Hello Glimmer,

I would take the list of 47 and look up the names on psychology today. http://psychologytoday.com/

You can search by specialty on this website.

Good Luck. If you need extra help, I'm in the big apple and can give you a few names.

[chaotic13]

I vacillated for MONTHS on whether to go with a male or female, the location of the facility, trying to figure out what specialty or degree would be best.....There were always just more questions. Finally it was my son crying and screaming at me that finally got me to say (*&^ it and just call SOMEWHERE. I found a location I like with several licensed therapists...some men some women... after calling and hanging up a few times, I finally stayed on the phone... asked for an appointment and then let the secretary just schedule me with whom ever. Ultimately I left it up to the state licensing board and fate. Overall my T seems like a good match.