[I_miss_my_kitty]

i'm still struggling with talking in therapy, i just don't know how to say what happened because i'm afraid of feeling uncomfortable, crying, and everything is too embarrassing. I'm not sure how to do this I just feel like quitting therapy.

[chaotic13]

I know what this feels like. I haven't been able to "say" what happened. I wrote it out and we are working with it from there. I know people say that it is important to verbalize and tell someone your story.I haven't been able to do that...Verbalizing seems to really negatively affect me. My T has backed off on this a bit with me. Maybe its not something everyone must do to heal.

I would recommend trying to get it out anyway you can. Then work with your T from there.

Its not easy that's for sure.

[Princess Butterfly]

Maybe your not ready to talk of it yet.Maybe just discussing the feelings around it would be helpful for you.
You will tell when your ready.That could be in an hours time or a years time.Dont push yourself.

[I_miss_my_kitty]

My T is pushing me though and she's even threatening to have me sent home and get kicked out of college if i don't start talking.

[Princess Butterfly]

I dont fully understand your relationship with you and your T.And because i am not you i will never know.
But that is sounding a bit harsh to me.(cant use quote button sorry)
If your not ready to talk your not ready.Dont get forced into something you dont want.
Sometimes a little push is what we all need but from what you have said shes being to forceful.
Sorry for not being able to help more

[melissa1202]

Some people never really talk about it. I still have not and i would hope your T's not too forceful. Any kind of therapy is good for you.

[chaotic13]

Originally Posted by I_miss_my_kitty

My T is pushing me though and she's even threatening to have me sent home and get kicked out of college if i don't start talking.

Not sure what is going on in you therapy but just because your T wants you to do something doesn't mean that you have to. This to me would be simply subjecting you to further abuse. Also, you might look into your college Student Handbook. Every school is different but, a student refusing to talk about their abuse is not grounds for dismissal. If you are at risk of harming yourself or others, now that might be grounds for sending you home.

I would suggest that you speak with your T. Let her know that you've gotten her message that talking about the abuse is important and necessary, but that at this point you are not ready..so stop pushing. If she cannot do as you ask then maybe it is time to work with someone else.

[I_miss_my_kitty]

thank you for your advice everyone I saw my T today and I thought she was less forceful and a lot nicer today, she promised not to have me sent home and I promise to start talking, and we're working on a form of cbt.