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Feb 07, 2009, 05:06 PM
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Has anyone out there been abused by a spouse? I feel so alone on this even when I know logically I'm not. Its very confusing one minute everything is well then the next I'm back to being the weak person Iwas before. Asking permission to even go to the bathroom!! Its making me nuts, how long does this twisted feelings last. I've been free of abuse for 3 years but these thoughts are just now surfacing. Any help, opinons and comments are all very appreciated.
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Feb 07, 2009, 05:15 PM
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(((((((((((((((((Melissa)))))))))))))))))))
I'm sorry for what you've been through.  I've been abused as an adult, although not by my H. I think what you're feeling is normal. You did not deserve to be hurt - none of us did. It sounds like you are away from your spouse - which is good. Hang in there, kt |
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#3
Feb 09, 2009, 10:22 AM
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Hi Melissa, sounds like you still need to find your power. Finding your power is awesome..........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Feb 09, 2009, 03:00 PM
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Melissa,
My spouse does not physically abuse me but he can be verbally and emotionally abusive. You are not alone in your confusion. The pandora website I posted a while back had some really good insight on the confusion and complex mixed feelings experienced by people who are SA by their spouses. ((((melissa))) although I don't live this type of abuse, it sound like it would be very difficult to handle and talk about.
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Feb 21, 2009, 01:13 PM
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I am sad to read your post.
My partner nearly killed me. The last time he punched and r**ed me was 4mths ago.The words he used were just as bad as the physical.
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Feb 22, 2009, 12:04 AM
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((( HUGS ))) - Please tell me that you are no longer with this man.
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#7
Feb 22, 2009, 09:51 AM
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i was abused by my ex-spouse (#2), mel. i can totally understand your confusion about "self". the abuser takes away our "self" and thus controls who we think we are.
are you getting help from a therapist? i also used a support group and both made an incredible impact on my finding 'self' again. i am no longer a POW. i know who and what i am. i have become empowered with my own truths. feel free to pm me if you want to chat. you can move beyond this place you are in now. there is a new life awaiting you. please know i care and understand your pain and hurt. there is hope. that i can assure you. 
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Feb 22, 2009, 10:37 PM
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No i am longer with him. Haven't been in 5 years but have flashbacks to being there. I am re-married and have just really honestly begun the therapy with the support of him and my kids. I am just really dealing with it all. I have been pushing it to the back since i left and never really dealing with it. |
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