[Maven]

I put a trigger on this, because I'm asking some questions that might upset some people, regarding some guys' attraction to girls in their teens.

My cousin feels that there may be something biological in men that makes them desire girls who are just coming into puberty, or who haven't been in it that long (say, under 18), perhaps because of fertility issues. He says there has to be a reason that many cultures have had very young girls married off, often to much older men (in their 20's or even much older). For instance, in Yemen, girls as young as 9 are eligible to be married. He points out that the sex trade being so successful proves that there is a high demand by men for young girls, and thinks it might be natural. He himself has pointed at teen girls and talked about how hot they were. It disturbs me, but I do wonder about other cultures and how, even in U.S. society, men will often comment on teen girls, even sometimes make "jokes" about very young teens.

It also makes me feel like s**t as an older woman (41), but that's another issue altogether.

Comments?

[knothead]

Hi Maven, I thought I'd try to take a stab at this, forgive me if I wander off the subject, I'm having a heck of a time concentrating today.

You're right, this is sort of a touchy subject, but I think men are biologically inclined toward young girls. Even in the U.S. really young girls would be married-off to men twice their age. Why else do girls go through puberty so young? It's taboo here now, but totally accepted as how things are in other cultures. I think it may be programmed into guys too, in order to keep the species going. If, say, a twelve year old girl who has already reached maturity marries a thirty year old man, think of how many children they would be able to have in their lifespan. Even if they lost some of them to SIDS or other things, the'd still be able to acquire a very large family.

It doesn't mean I think it's right or condone any type of sexual violence to young girls. Even if men are programmed to be attracted to young girls I still think child molesters are scum.

In some Countrys where it happens its because a dowery is involved and a man has to save up for that and it will somtimes take him untill he is in his fortys or even fiftys.

I know many men who would never look at a young girl with interest and would shun them if they did.

[knothead]

I suppose this is slightly off subject but kind of in the same general area. Back when I was still able to go to concerts, like in my late twenties, it occurred to me that some of those girls who like to flash their boobs at the bands and the crowd are really young, like 14 or 15. Sometimes the members of the band might be twice their age but you know they're enjoying the display. Some of these older guys enjoy their eye full then go home where they might have a daughter that same age -- it's just so bizarre to me. Weird.

In my book a teen under the age of sixteen can walk around stark naked and should not be molested (I wouldnt advise my daughter to behave that way but she has the right).

If a man finds a girl attractive at the age of fourteen or so then he should seek medical help.

[knothead]

(Tishie) So do you think the guys at concerts even think about the age of the girls they are staring at? I'm thinking no -- I think it's a "deer caught in headlights" type of reaction, like they can't help it.

They should be thinking if they are not then again I repeat ..... They need to seek medical help.

[bebop]

in reading this thread I think about the teens out there today. alot of times we have no idea how old they are. most look much older than they did when I was a teen. I am not defending men by any means because some still look really young but for the most part I would swear they are over 18. look how fashions have changed. girls seem to be bigger busted than when I was a kid. they dress much older. I have to put some of the blame on parents. they buy them seductive and revealing clothes too. much older than what they should be wearing. I just don't think all the blame needs to be on a man. IE: at concerts...in the darkend arenas? I would bet there is no way to tell how old those kids are that are flashing them. just something to think about.

[deliquesce]

i think it is ok to be attracted to someone much younger than you. you cannot help who you are attracted to. but to consider having sex with them? no way.

[Typo]

This is an interesting thread to me, seeing as I always end up with older guys
(i'm 19 going on 20 and I seem to always end up in a relationship with a guy in his late 20's to mid 30's, and no never before I was 18, I only started dating when I turned 18)

I think part of it is nature, like was said before. Also like Bebop said it's the fact that teens look so much older than they are, I know at 15 people thought I was 21, I've always looked older than my age, partially because of my height.

I wonder if some of that is a craving for youth? not in a sexual manner but just for the feeling of being young and free?

I don't think it's right if a older man makes a move on any girl under 18 year old girl, or tries to seduce her, but lets just look at it how do you know if who your looking at is the age they look like?

I wish I could add more but at the moment my head is mush, too many hours at work, will add more later when I"ve had some sleep!

I am going to stay away from this thread as I think its triggering me I dont think my head can think straight about this subject so I will leave you to it......

Hugs

[Maven]

Sorry, Tishie, as I said, it wasn't my intent to trigger anyone.

While I can agree that it makes some sense in terms of nature, it would also make sense that women should desire younger, more virile men, then. And, since teen girls are more likely to give birth to babies with birth defects, then the main attraction should be to women in their late teens to 20's.

I know for a fact, there are many men who would seek out 13- and 14-year-olds, if it were legal. Look at the number of Internet predators who look for very young girls. And men joke openly about their celebration of a girl turning 18, hence, "legal." I think there are men who follow the law, because they don't want to end up in jail, but if it were legal, they'd seek out younger females.

What does this say about older women?