Where do you find the good ones?

I am single and I don't like it at all!

I have tried online dating websites only to connect with undesirable men to put it politely.

I enjoy making pottery but the classes are 90% women everytime I have been to one. The men that do go are either married or dating someone in the class.

When I get accepted into a new program at college I will be in a mostly all female program.

I feel rather low about myself because my meds have lowered my metabolism...etc. I guess I need a self-esteem boost?

I am normally shy around good looking men and lost for words when I am around them.
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Where does one find good men that have morals and are genuiinely a good person that wants to eventually be in a commited relationship?

After online dating I don't really have a clear view of what men desire in a woman. Most of them had an age range, height, weight,..........list goes on. I'm in my early 30's but I look more like 25ish. I'm 5'4 with a cuvry figure thanks to my meds. And some ppl have told me that I am cute.

Am I unattractive to a potential partner because I am not in my 20's anymore? It just seems to me like some men have put an age limit on who they will date...etc.

I feel confused, sad, and desparate.

((Zen)) I wish I knew the answer to your question, but I hear you! I am single and in my early 30's as well. I think it is so much harder to meet guys once you are no longer in a school setting. I guess just keep doing the things that make you happy and I bet that happiness will draw the right guy to you.

Another gal who's single and in her early 30s, and very lonely! I'm working through my issues with my therapist, and so is another friend of mine in the same situation - she keeps reminding me that when we do meet our Mr. Rights, we're gonna be all ready for them, after getting some healing in therapy - here's hoping!

Zen I would ask some of your friends if they have any friends that are single. They could even ask their husbands to see if they have any single friends. I would also see if they have any single clubs in your area. Also, a lot of men like to workout so you could try a fitness club/gym. You could also try your local parks, see if they have any sports games coming around in the area. Full of men. hope this helps.

I met my man at the skating rink, about 43 years ago. It was on a night that they had dancing there. it was love at first sight.

It would be hard for me to be on the 'dating scene' again. Things are just not what there were way back when I dated in the 60's. I'd hate it now I think.

that doesn't help answer your question, but I have a hard enough time finding female friends.

Good luck

I agree with you Zen on your original post. I've tried online dating for awhile, removed all my profiles from all of them, just didn't work. I guess like anything else, we just have to weed out the good from the bad. Since my divorce, I've been single still for 2 and 1/2 years, and I don'tlike it either!

I am single too and i have a big thing for rough guys and bad boys. lol. I am working on it.

The online dating is ok, but there are some loonies.. and I was assaulted on a first date from a phone chat line when I was 18 so you need to be careful, very careful.

When you find the answer let me know ok haha

there are lots of opportunities for me, but i am not well enough to. Still getting stable on my meds. I do miss cuddling and being held by someone who cares about me though...and i thought i was close to being able to get to know some of fellow lesbians. But there is always hope in the near future.

It really is difficult. I've been single for 3 years now. Hated the last 2. I keep looking but haven't had any luck either. But I do know a lot of ppl have had luck at bookstores and places like that too.

I just purchased some novels online...I guess that rules out finding men at a book store!

Well I went to a bookstore alone tonight, and all I saw were couples. Not many single men at all.

I'm not promising anything, but you might try these sites:

http://www.nocheatersdate.com/ - The people here claim that they won't cheat (the service is by the TV show, Cheaters)

http://www.greatboyfriends.com/ - Girls recommend guys they know as great dating material!