Help

I'm having a rediculous problem with my husband and communication. He refuses to listen to me, turns things around and hears what he wants to hear then fights with me accordingly. Anytime he mentions how I "mess up" I acknowledge it but I also try explain how he "messes up". He won't have any of that. How do I get through to a brick wall? It's really upsetting because I want to make it work. We just found out I am pregnant. But he gets mad even at things he doesn't understand then just blames me and wants to end the relationship. His favorite response is "I don't want to talk about it" Please help what can I do???

wow...that sounds like my boyfriend....he is always "right"...doesn't want to talk about anything...unless it is all from his prospective....I have been having those same issues in my relationship.really wanting to make things work....i have tiptoed around for weeks trying to be miss perfect...agreeing on everything...being a "yes" woman...well it doesn't work...he has to want to talk to make the relationship work...one person can't do it alone...maybe you can go out...meet on neutral grounds....try to talk over dinner...you need to voice your concerns and be heard...i have come to realize...though it hurts...you can't make someone love you....you can't make someone stay with you...you have to be strong for yourself .....relationships can be great...then they can be hard....you have to have communication....i thought of couples counseling...it could be good for some...but mine...i am sure...would not go.....

sounds like my bf too. he at least has sorta gotten it through his skull now. so now the argument only lasts one hour until he realizes he was being a jerk instead of a whole day. i'm not sure what to tell you. some men will never realize it until youre gone.

Sounds like my husband - could this possibly just be how men are? (well, some men that is)

I am sorry that you all are having to go through this. I wish I understood men better but they all seem so distant and emotionally unavailable. Kudos to you all for trying so hard. Safe hugs to you all!